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If you’re wondering what the work is like, here is a recent review:

“I want to give a whole hearted shout out to Thomas and his coaching.

I worked with him for several months last year and it had profound impact on my life at a time when I was being called from within to make some real changes. These changes were hard to understand, and required me to look at parts of myself that I didn't want to acknowledge.

What Thomas did was help me get out of that self depricating loop that I found myself in, and I see so many others trapped in, by learning to "use my life as God" and "transmit divine love". The key word for me was "transmit".

I thought I had to heal myself before I could go out and help others. Thomas helped me call bullshit on that assumption, and thankfully he did because it wasn't until I started the practice of loving everyone and everything, especially the painful patterns I didn't want to acknowledge, that I really began to heal myself.

Thomas also taught me about "cities", or powers that one attains when the mind is still, Raja Yoga: Yoga of the Mind and moving energy around, Satsang: the spark to remember God always, and simply living in integrity and divinity to serve. Also..."When the energy clears, there's just silence, stillness, and peace."

Thomas introduced me to so many powerful ideas that the ancient Yogis have been practicing for many thousands of years...and this was all in one session. Yea, for reals.

Listen, if you're ready to go deep and spark that divine energy within yourself, break out of the hypnotic rhythm, and shine like the light that you are, get Thomas to coach you, if he's available. It's a wild, authentic, and gut busting ride. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Thomas, thank you my brother. I love you man.

”

Love yourself

Love this body, but recognize it isn’t you

Love all that has and has not happened, and see only grace in it

Every thing in this universe is memory, has memory, is one

The energy of everything you are meant to be is already within

Learn to quiet the mind, focused on a single point

Learn to love this body, but realize it isn’t you

Love everything that has and has not happened, that will and will not.

Surrender to acceptance. Humility is our greatest strength, next to purpose.

Love everyone and everything, especially the most painful, because those things need love the most.

Some have been asking for a practice:

I can only recommend the practices I’ve done

Spend 5-15 minutes a day, increasing to longer, loving pain and loving whatever painful things arise or float across awareness

Spend 15-30 minutes loving something / anything / everything / nothing as much as you can

Spend 5 minutes meditating on nothingness

Spend 5 minutes meditating on everything

Spend 5 minutes loving death

Spend 5 minutes meditating on your purpose

At any time during this, before or after, you can chant and sing to god, or perform mantra.

Focus on others not yourself

Ask yourself what is the most loving thing I can do, and do that.

See everything as an opportunity to practice acceptance and surrender

Real coaching doesn’t judge life’s dramas, it doesn’t judge the causes and conditions leading to them, and it has no fear of the outcomes. Real coaching is about clarity, going from darkness to light.

Real coaching is life coaching, but not the kind that says optimize this way, build this habit, tweak this thing, do shadow work! Real coaching is clearly seeing life as it is naturally unfolding, as it really is.

Strategies, behavioral optimizations, and psychological help is useful. “Get up 15 minutes earlier and sit in open awareness to start the day” is useful. And while all of this may occur during coaching sessions, what is really happening is that life becomes lived consciously.

Seeing and experiencing all the feelings, seeing how those feelings guide behavior, and seeing life as a drama to help expose us to our unconscious…

Real coaching is going from unclear to clear, dark to light, through the naturally arising drama of life as experience, through the energetics of the nervous system, through the bounded patterning of psychology, and, eventually, through inner heart awareness.

This kind of coaching is vital. It makes every situation a positive situation. Difficult, painful, and unfair realities become opportunities for clarity and expansiveness. Life becomes the teacher, and the real coach is just a translator and relational support system.

Announcement:

Before meeting my guru, I built a coaching business up from $500 a month to $58,000 a month in a little over 18 months. I didn’t do any sales pitches, ads, videos, it was entirely word of mouth and relied on testimonials. Totally natural growth. I often didn’t even do a sales call. Then I closed the business down and gave almost 90% of the profit away.

But what I was coaching on back then (before my spiritual awakening) was the practice of self love, including loving pain and trauma, and living a life of radical freedom. The methods and visualizations and energy is still as relevant now as it was then. And I want to make it available to all of you.

I’m going to offer a group class on this material now, which used to cost $8,000 and lead to over 80 insane reviews of working with me during that time. I’m calling it “Back to Basics” because this kind of work was something that lead me here and prepared me to meet my guru and have that big spiritual download that changed my life.

If you want mentoring from me next year, attending the back to basics class will be required. If you want to do that work with me but never had the money to do it, this will be your chance. If you’ve done this work with me, and want to deepen it now that you’ve had years of integration, this is great excuse to get back to work and a chance to take responsibility for your life.

DM me for more details!

It's your fucking life. Don't be a pussy.

You are in control of the single most important thing in this world: your beliefs. Right now I'm going to tell you something crazy: you're probably both egotistical and a pussy. And you lack real confidence.

A man that believes in himself doesn't condition his sense of self worth on the reception of a stranger, even if she does have lovely fat hanging from her chest and great curves...

Let's talk about responsibility for your beliefs. Can anyone believe anything for you? Of course not. And can you experience without filtering through beliefs? Good luck trying. So eliminate your weak limiting fearful belief in your "relative" adequacy, your belief you have a "DECENT AMOUNT" to offer a girl.

How about you have an entire world to offer that woman? How about you know exactly where to take her from A to Z?

How about you come to believe in your ability to impact her emotionally and sexually.

How about you walk around like you have that belief as fundamental to all of your being and tie that to a healthy masculine sexual interest. Now tell me some woman assessing your worth matters fuck all.

It's your life. Don't be a pussy. Get what the fuck you can for yourself. If you don't fully love yourself who will? If you don't believe in yourself, I can hold onto a belief in you for you, but you have to seize that and own it. Learn to love yourself and know your greatness. It's not about comparison it's about your capacity.

I wrote this for Pierre De Pierre de Sousa because he is fully living his purpose and people who are meant to work with him need to find him.

Sometimes addicts are aware of it, sometimes proud of it, sometimes tortured by it, sometimes blind to it).

You can tell an addict is healed when they stop exaggerating. They start telling the truth. Humbly.

Which puts Pierre in a bit of a tough spot. Because the work he is doing now, objectively, is so wonderful that it will sound exaggerated. It isn't. It's the truth.

Pierre was always sharing excellent VALUE. He never gave less than what people paid him for.

But until he found it within, he wasn't capable of sharing the loving fullness of his BEING. His PURPOSE, his DHARMA. His LOVE.

So what is a former hyperbolic salesman who was just covering up the lack of love he felt within to do?

Have me write a review and tell you. He's underselling what he is doing in his work now. He's helping folks find levels of love, joy, peace, purpose, clarity, and direction that ARE PRICELESS.

What Pierre is doing for his devotees is the start of the true purpose of his life: taking care of everyone he is meant to, fully.

You aren't hiring a mentor or a coach. You're hiring a fucking GURU. A real one. Guru doesn't mean authority figure. It means servant. Someone who is going to devote himself to you. To show you how to be what you REALLY ARE, to get WHAT YOU REALLY WANT, and then go help others do the same.

To be as GOOD for this world as you are meant to but, but were too caught in the mind, or too attached to bullshit, to accomplish alone.

Guru means someone who helps you find the god within, the love within, the purpose within, and helps you get LITERALLY EVERYTHING YOU WANT THAT IS GOOD FOR YOU along the way. And they do it for the rest of your life.

So I don't care what he calls himself these days. But I am calling him a guru. And if he is MEANT TO BE YOURS, to help you find within yourself all the purpose love and faith, all the strength, and help you accomplish and realize your desires so you can get on with being your own love, well, let me tell you: he will be damn fucking good at doing that for you. It is a privilege to finally find someone like that in your life. And it is his privilege to be this for you.

May you both enjoy the fucking ride, because its incredible, and its just getting started.

And it is better than he is even saying. You have to experience it for yourself to realize it.

Simple way to pay yourself for self improvement:

I made a game for a client of mine who, like many of us, is overly critical of himself.

The game is simple. For the next 5 days, you are to track how many future dollars and happiness points you earn. How do you earn future dollars? Every time you have a positive thought, I want you to pay yourself in future dollars. 5 dollars for a simple positive thought, and 10 or 20 for rare or profound realizations. See how many future dollars you pay yourself each day.

As for happiness points, those are even easier. Every time you do something for your mental physical or spiritual health, you earn one point.

Positive thinking can really add up and spiral out of control with future earnings so make sure to keep a tally, and also if you notice you start earning too much to easily keep track of, that’s a sign you’re doing the right things.

You can do it the other way: if you have a negative belief pop up that you seem to be ruminating over, I want you to do 10 or 20 push ups and distract yourself for a bit. Most things don’t need to be thought about or worried over (Even serious ones) for more than a few minutes at a time. That’s about all we can process and metabolize.

Anyway feel free to use this if you want or come up with your own. I like the structure as a way to help yourself implement some good healthy habits.

It’s not about what you come up with, its just about committing to and then taking the action that matters.

|The hidden role of anger, resentment, and lack of forgiveness in shame — what addiction taught me about shame!!!|

The response to the recent posts have been amazing. I had 3 spots open this month for new clients. 2 are filled and the final spot is a strong maybe. I won’t have more space until June if this closes.

If you want access to the mastermind, message me! If you want coaching, and my spots are full, I can start you on a program with the coaches I’ve been training. Message me if that option is a better fit for you, and I’ll get you on a call with those coaches.

“Thank you for letting shame come up. I can do (access it) on my own, but putting me on the spot has got me to it.” This is a client who was given the tools to heal his own lifelong pattern of self shaming.

“I know that feeling shame never helped me. I can remember times when I felt the shame. I had no reason to feel the shame.”

And how do we love that and heal the wound so that we stop shaming?

Laughter— courage— but most of all, we Accept it. We love the shame and accept the shame that we may have in future. We start the work. End the cycle

He said “shame doesn’t help me, but it is a way to love myself even more. And love other people. Because when you feel shame, we can feel love, and when we feel love, we care.”

Once all our emotions are part of a healthy self actualization, they become healing. “Love tells us what needs to be done.”

We don’t ever “need” the emotion of shame, we can let go of our attachment to it. Shame becomes an opportunity, a message, to love and accept ourselves. Through determination and courage and yes love we can grow more self accepting and stronger.

Criticism becomes healthy fuel, shame becomes the desire for more connection rather than self loathing; when we let go of it, we experience the healthy truth of it.

As always, love will do what shame and fear pretend to.

Once we approach it this way emotionally, we can see the lack of forgiveness and the anger and he resentment, and once we love and forgive, we let go of things that hurt us, and we accent them and love them, thus letting go of the patterns— forgiveness has a huge role in shame. But we must also forgive ourselves— not just those who hurt us.

In the Mastermind, I go into detail about the role of addiction and shame as a fuel-- as a proxy for love. If you like this post, I highly recommend you get one of the two remaining free spots in my mastermind. If you want them, comment below.

The guru said: "It is better to see god in everything than to try and figure it out"

"SEE GOD"

Let go of judgment, for a moment.

Notice that the mind must activate to create judgments.

Judgments are the movements of the mind.

Relax into a non-judgmental heart. Love doesn't judge, it accepts.

"Judge not, lest ye be judged" is not a moral pointer, its a pointer about the nature of judgment.

You have to have special eyes to see god. Non-judgmental eyes. The eyes of love. The eyes of liberation. To see God is to wave hello to everything, from the heart, with the eagerness and purity of a small child running free through a field, the ground the sky the forest is all a phenomenon of wonder.

To see god is to experience love. God is the love your mother has for you when you are born. God is the care and tenderness you feel when you see your favorite animal. Everything is your child, everyone is that animal, everyone is the light shining.

"IN EVERYTHING"

To see "god in" something doesn't mean the surface changes. The surface is what the surface is, but the light is within. Your thoughts are what they are, your emotions are what they are, but the source is within. It is not deeply within. It is a shallow light, not some great psychological fathom.

God is imbued within, just beneath the surface of the appearance, just as the vast spacious ocean is just beneath its own surface.

"THAN TO TRY TO FIGURE IT OUT"

You do not need to understand something to accept it. You do not need to understand something to love it.

Real understanding comes from the heart of awareness.

The drive to use the mind to find your loving source is like making a painting of a mountain and then staring at lines in the painting when the entire mountain is right in front of you.

"Things just know." Women and men sense dominance quite easily. Can't really fake this. It's instinctual.

Be certain, decisive, self aware, and aware of her. You're so in your head you don't see shit.

When you get good, you can sit back in a group and say nothing and earn the attraction of multiple women simply by NOT trying.

When you aren't forcing moves, every move you make is felt.

They are aware of you. Make them earn further insight into you, and hold onto the idea of your attractiveness with certainty. It will radiate from you.

Always assume things are going well. Learn to see it, then know it.

When you get good and understand your sexual worth, you'll begin to see that most women who spend any amount of time with you will sleep with you, and you're deciding which ones to sleep with and how you want to.

Alexander Lindberg and I should be discussing this level of perception in detail for you in an upcoming podcast (after the UMP guys finish changing lives in their immersion).

One day I’ll learn to use panorama. Sunset cypress park. .5 miles from my house. Took my a year to find out about this place.

Calls with me are always better than you think they will be, because you are better than you think you are. I simply help you see yourself, without your bullshit, from a place of love acceptance and quiet.

What is the permission of dominance? Pierre Caissial (what changes we when become that bad ass loving man who takes care of those we care for).

How deep is the root of numb addiction? What matters most: understanding or action? Is there a purpose to shaming ourselves? Tobias Engström

What is the purpose of fear? What is on the other side of doubt about being on public display Madushan Dissanayake

Rooz Allen when we are strong, is there such a thing as too much love? Why does neediness feel like love until we know self love?

Matt Daley why is understanding different from judgment, and what is the relationship between judgment and love acceptance and peace?

Matthew Ng what can hurt us when we are grateful for pain? What is greater, a life of pleasure, or a life of joy? What is the best way to overcome loneliness?

Many of you have known me a long time and may be surpirsed to know I’ve successfully helped men and women around the world to begin dating successfully. I have a group of 500 folks I work with on a daily basis right now. Just today I had calls with clients in China, Europe, and the US.

If you’re struggling with self confidence, can’t land consistent dates, unhappy in your relationship, or find yourself playing out the same patterns over and over again I can help you.

Men: if you have anxiety approaching beautiful women or don’t feel worthy of love, let’s talk.

Women: if you find yourself consistently unsatisfied and struggle with identifying and communicating your emotional needs and expectations, let’s talk.

Many of you will believe that you’re doing ok and allow yourself to remain inert. You don’t have to settle for bad, or “ok”. You don’t need to settle at all.

If you want peace, feel your feelings and name them to yourself. Feel them directly, as actually and substantively as you can. Feel them meaningfully. Feel the stories they are telling and the attachments they arise from. Feel them totally and absolutely. Eventually a feeling can be felt rapidly, shift almost instantly. Engage with your thoughts and feelings as though they contain a door, and walk through the door into yourself. Walk into thoughts and feelings. Then, slowly slowly, after feeling them, let the entire structure dissolve into the energy. If the energy is in your body, dissolve it into the bliss of the body. If the energy is in your mind, let the mind relax and go open and clear, and dissolve it into open clear mind. If the heart is buzzing, let the non judgment of conscious love dissolve the experience into itself, liberating it automatically.

If you want more energy, and more peace, and more bliss, you can rest in the assurance that all experience arises to be metabolized, that the subconscious is always showing you the next structure to be metabolized, that past trauma is an opportunity to revisit and liberate energy, that all phenomena is loveable, all sensation is capable of being experienced ecstatically, at the very least peacefully.

I don’t give much advice these days that isn’t asked for directly, don’t offer much guidance that isn’t requested individually, don’t really share many blanket statements. Everything is individualized based on the spontaneous drama of the moment, the wave of what is happening.

Even so, if you’re wanting help with any of this, ask me.

A man is lost when he is alone even around others

Men care for things deeply - we cannot give birth to life, but we give birth to our ideas, our hobbies, our passions and projects.

It is unnatural to have nothing to care for, or care about. It is unnatural to have nothing to build for, hurt for, sacrifice for; to seek for, yearn for, love for.

It is unnatural to be empty, to be numb, to be constantly despairing.

Men are builders. But too many have put down their tools.

Men are lovers. But too many cannot feel love or feel loved.

We are a lost generation. Seekers, empty and anxious with worry, or hopeless, or angry, or satisfied with the superficial.

When you build your life on your terms you take responsibility for your world. This is a fundamental, strong, powerful thing to do.

Take back power over your domain. Take responsibility for your feelings, for your self, for your beliefs. Find your values and live according to them. Define and enforce your boundaries. Then within your values and in accordance with your boundaries, care for others. Not from neediness; not from fear of losing attachment; but from an expression of the strength of your own feelings. Simply as an expression of self care, we care for others.

We must re-take responsibility for those we love and care for. We must re-take responsibility for ourselves.

It is time to build your life on your terms. The domain of your emotional world, your beliefs, your goals, is yours and yours alone. And that is fitting, because if you do not heed this, even when others are around you will be alone.

Meanwhile, a man with purpose and self love, and who cares for others, is always part of a community, and always taking care of his circle. He is connected to everything he touches and does.

Lazaros Kalfas Pierre de Sousa

Systematic Growth

Identify clear goals, emotions, and mindsets.

Outline action steps to achieve those goals.

Take those actions

Refine the steps based on results of taking action.

Consider out of the box action steps. For example, reducing stress may be targeted by meditation, exercise, dramatically purging your home of unnecessary items, journaling, and more.

Do not give yourself an unrealistic amount of actions steps, rather, prioritize action steps you believe will be most beneficial to a goal (or multiple goals).

Increase goals and add additional actions steps once behavior becomes habit (at a 6 week mark, essentially).

Through this process, you will continually add skills and be creating an environment maximally conducive to desired emotions. In one year you will have 7 major behavioral habit acquisitions all compounding on one another (as these steps are designed to maintain all previous habits, once formed).

My simple advice is focus on 3 to 5 actions steps the first few weeks, then perhaps adding one or two refining action steps on the march to one month, and then 6 weeks. By six weeks, you can consider adding an entire new range of action steps.

I’ve run about 7 men’s retreats in the last year and a half. Being in the energy is an important part of this work. So is the group coordination of the retreats and their operations. So are the practices. So are the talks.

Many of you have a personal relationship with me, and I’d like to find a way for all of you to get together and also join in the energy and the practices.

We will need to find a nice venue, since the most I’ve had attend previously was 11 people.

But I’m thinking we can get a large group and do some heart practices and it will be a good thing. Let me know if this speaks to you!

Someone asked me about whether love is generated or already there.

“You” are love whether you realize it or not, as is all, as is god.

Love appears to be generated within experience spontaneously, generated “within experience” = love within love, like a fractal; love is generative, it is also the holding field, space, potential, and that which has no potential.

Love is the body, love is the activity of the body, love is opening, closing, and everything else.

Within experience, pure awareness, pure heart awareness, loving awareness, changes experience from a purely mental / mind based, samsaric mind, “maya” to one of pure direct heart perception, direct blissful contact with the inherently love / bliss of being; being as YOU experiences an “outer” love, and “inner” love and a love that is being “made” we call this energy field “Shakti” and it has body pranic and transcendent / immanent aspects; unified in their shared actuality as love.

You’re asking me if a grass road is the same as an ocean stream; there are body channels inner heart channels open mind channels and there are no “channels” — there isn’t a right way to love or generate it; there is a path and there is the path less path. In the path, love can be imagined, felt somatically, expanded. Love can also simply be “realized”, which opens us to constant experience in all forms and formlessness to the “energy”; love can be seen as relationship and surrender to experience via total openness bliss and acceptance of what is; there are many forms and flavors and there is really only all One, all god.

Gods form is love. As are you. It’s a circle you can follow or realize. Get comfortable with relativity and paradox and have fun.

My wish in writing this is that things be exactly as they are,

that in being as they are, there is peace,

as it is, and there is a sense of being in all things, that in sensing the being in all things, we sense the nothingness underlying being,

and from which being arises, that this arising is an emptiness, that this emptiness is made of bliss,

that this bliss is entirely the experience of love,

and that love is the nothing and the everything of all that is, conscious and unconscious, real and imagined, at all layers of generality and at all layers of being.

That this is all god.

That god is all love.

That we are god.

That we are love.

That being is the love which knows itself; that knowing is also the love; that emotion and thought are the wonderful metabolic byproduct of being;

that they are also love;

that all is the essence of perfection and super complete.

That in this moment we may realize this, as it is, perfectly, in this moment, is the complete, total and entirety of love.

That the mind is integrated into being through love, and through the experience of more being.

That when the mind is situated in the heart this is obvious.

And that this experience be available to anyone, and everyone, as it is meant to be.

That is what I wish for.

I wish you all the best,

and may your suffering be glorious and liberating, and may your peace be eternal, everlasting, everpresent, or not, as it is,

and as it happens to be.

I am very excited to say that I have a new coaching student which, along with the two from last week, makes 3 new students. We are slowly building our community!

For today’s “task” for self love I’d like everyone to write 5 things they are grateful for, and expand it each day for 5 days. And I’d like you all to ask one person who posts their gratitude about those things and give them a chance to share. I’d like us all to work together: iron sharpens iron

As a reward I went through social prime and got all the posts I made there, and have added them to a giant document to be streamlined and reposted here! We are talking about over one hundred hours of value.

Also, I’ll begin the gratitude list:

My mom

My step dad

My brother

Each of you guys that regularly interacts with me on here and who are committed to self improvement

My great friend Deon Rieux who has a very hard personal story to share soon that will inspire all of you.

SLA retreat and the importance of love and bliss

“Love is like a virus. It is spread from someone who has it to someone who doesn’t.”

Love / Bliss / Peace / Joy is the metabolizing of experience, and metabolizing experience is love bliss peace and joy.

When folks come on retreat the drama of the current situation comes into clarity and what is needed comes forth, individualized and personally tailored.

Folks who have not experienced joy will find it. Folks who need to open the body and to subtle awareness will experience this. Folks who need to have a view will get the view. The energy of the experience does all this.

So why am I writing about it?

I’m going to open up retreat to the larger group sometime next year. For now I’m inviting people individually based on how the groups will work together. But I’m cataloguing how it’s going and asking folks to share the experience.

If you’re curious about anything we work on in this retreats I’ll share the details with you and you can do the same things on your own

I literally still have a giant hole in my stomach from surgery and am recovering from strep throat still, so forgive this post if it isn't concise.

I recently posted that I had suffered from depression and a terrible anxiety as a young man and, through a rigorous program of self development bordering on the maniacal, became the kind of man that is dating a Playboy model.

I then posted a few nice photos to show you guys what is possible.

The responses from this group disappointed me: they were disrespectful to me, and her. Then someone posted her name, which was not something I anticipated. Suffice to say, I don't mention her name for reasons of privacy, and if I had wanted to do so, I would have.

If there are any men here who believe they are not capable of similar self development, please say so, and I will coach you on the precise steps, and the life changing labors, that will transform you.

Note: If there is anyone here who believes I would google photos of a random person and say I was dating them, kindly leave the group.

The things that I am trying to help you men do, the things I want you to understand, come from insights I acquired after a great deal of learning, some of it painful.

Respect yourselves, respect one another, and make this group a place for us to discuss the kind of self development that results in healing, strength, and being hardcore men of value. I want you to genuinely be a savage gentleman, like me.

Stages of Intimacy

Feel deep physical attraction and energetic resonance (they amplify your state into one of arousal / excitement / joy)

Make a connection based on shared life experience and strong embodied opinions about your life, play, work, purpose, family, sexuality sense of humor etc .

Deepen the connection by being trustworthy and of high integrity, while having adventures and bonding experiences, increasingly enjoying sexual energies and opening one another up.

Become dependable for one another, while deepening friendship and building a life together based on shared values.

While fighting, always assume both partners nervous systems are instruments to teach each other to become less dissociated and stronger. Repair one another with what is called “co-regulation”.

If you can, share your entire spiritual experiences and energies and perspectives and practices, at least for a while to try each others connection to god love source

Sonic Fiction

In the ether of his discontent he grew acquainted with the bittersweet anxieties of being, those increasingly familar resonances of doubt, lurking and springing forth in fully formed thoughts like vestigial echoing fractals the center origin of which was the burgeoning self contempt and the lingering, incessant doubts, of sanity, of health and wellness, of love and connection, doubts that, like a waning, rising tide, ebbed and flowed but nevertheless kept him constantly submerged beneath the undertow, mercilessly, as he fought with all the might and willpower of a broken man, dangerously close to doom, grasping helplessly to breathe, never cracking the surface to draw breath. He was suffocating on himself. His thoughts raced. He felt as though he could hear truth discerningly. But he was mistaken. He was only able to comprehend the connection points that coincided with the deep abiding belief in his own limited truths, truths of his weakness, his insufficiency, his lack of wellness, his lack of worth.

And so in that total empty abyssal absence he must, with grit and determination, somehow manifest a seed of action. A change. Some harmony he cannot hear, but can feel, somehow, will form the song of his reprieve. He must be, despite all weakness cataloged in constant self reverie, despite all manner of infirmity and trauma, despite his incoherent lurches toward a path for success and the concomitant failure to reach it, despite the previous lifetime of loss etched in memory and experience like a monument to his failings, he must be strong.

He must come to know that love is stronger than his fear. That fear is not reality. That what is real is fundamental. That he and he alone is responsible for his beliefs. That he must take action. Brilliantly, brutally, unforgiving, he must take action. Half measures would avail him nothing. He must be ready to live as though his life depends on it. Because that was the least of all the things that depended on it.

Example of successful tinder convo. No routines or lines, just an easy back and forth. After this she texted my cell and asked what my plans were this weekend.

A lot of people asking me about the CP3 trade.

Some things Houston knows: Chris Paul will be like Patrick Beverly on defense, but Chris Paul on offense.

Paul still rates as one of the two best high usage rate defenders at his position. If you want to say Avery Bradley is better I won’t disagree. But I also think Bradley and Marcus Smart could learn from Chris about denying their opponent position to their favorite spots. Although, at 32, Paul has seen his best years he is still among the best on ball defenders in the NBA.

Brains: Chris Paul is the thinking man’s point guard. He lost a whole step after injuries and was still the best point guard for several years because he operates at the top tier intellectually and executes with a precision that MVPs like westbrook and even tacticians like James Harden have yet to match. Chris can process and diagram what a genius like Draymond Green intuits from pattern recognition. Draymond is the more rare mind. But Chris is still in that top 2% of thinking basketball minds. He will make Harden more accountable and efficient because he will insist on it. Some of the careless “lost possessions” will no longer happen in Houston.

The Beauty and Tyranny of being Exact

People argued that Paul being controlling was harming chemistry in LA. The social dynamics of Paul in LA were getting more toxic the more apparent their inability to win became; imagine being forced to make your bed even though the bed was probably about to be thrown in the trash. Here is the thing though: Chris Paul made one of the best offenses in the NBA out of JJ Reddick, a cipher for a 3, Blake Griffin, and DeAndre Jordan. Deandre Jordan has 0 range. Blake was an average midrange shooter who quit driving to the rim and had a weak 3 point shot. JJ is great at what he does but limited. And yet Paul was able to make this offense hum through sheer precision and execution.

The one leak in Houston was close to midrange 2’s:

We are witnessing the greatest generation of basketball ever. Peak Basketball. Chris Paul and James Harden in a D’Antoni system is such a cool thing. In the playoffs opponents figured out how to guard Houston: making them good on offense, but below their regular season high. The spurs conceded midrange 2 point shots and didn’t abandon shooters on the perimeter, their bigs were fast enough to chase and recover or with giant long arms to simply jump straight up and contest the shots at rim. Add in Kawai being basically mismatch proof and there it was. Great teams can do this to Houston. COULD. Good luck conceding the mid range jumper when it’s Chris Paul instead of Patrick Beverly. He makes (at least) half of those. Conceding that shot means there is 0 threat of a turnover, and the bigs are in position to fight for a fair share of offensive rebounds.

The Underrated Shot:

If I had to run a team for 10 years, I am taking Lebron James. If I needed to score in a close game or hit a game winner, I am taking Michael Jordan. Lebron took the finals from San Antonio in his second title by nailing his 2’s and 3’s in the final minutes of the game. It was incredible to watch. And that was because he was shooting like how Jordan ALWAYS did. Jordan was so impossible to guard because the exact shot a defense wants to try to force, a contested 2 point midrange shot, was the shot he worked the hardest to perfect. And he could make it half the time. In close games when teams are all aware of each other’s moves, they are physical, they are playing for it all, the guy who can get a high percentage shot off is incredibly valuable. Chris Paul has run an offense that is amazing in these situations for years. Houston just got its “Clutch”, and the last gear it was missing on offense.

The underrated Defense through workload

Harden was a rugged defender in OKC. Is Harden a bad defender conceptually? He is fast, great footwork, and strong as hell. He has nice height and good (not great) arm length. He has large, fast hands. He has the tools. So if it is a mental thing, i.e. simply not understanding what their defense is trying to do, or losing track of his responsibilities, a vocal guy like Chris Paul, with an elite understanding, will help make the calls. Paul will help fix these mental lapses. More importantly, it seems, will be allowing Harden to conserve energy on offense so that he can actually afford to TRY and have effort on defense. It is exhausting to defend at 100% and go be a ball dominant offensive powerhouse. Just being that offensive monster is exhausting and Harden wore down in the Playoffs last year from it. If Paul helps save even 25% of Harden’s energy on offense, which seems very realistic, and Harden transfers 20 of that 25% to his defense, we are talking about a massive jump. Even if you think that is only worth 2 shots a game where harden went from a turnstyle to staying in front and contesting a shot (essentially turning a play with 95% conversion into 42%) you are looking at essentially adding 2 points worth of value. Doesn’t sound like a ton, but adding a 2 point PPG point differential is usually the difference between a 2 seed and a 5 seed in the playoffs.

Found some of my old writing around the time I started having more powerful realizations about men and women.

NBA Draft Potential Primer

That the league is now better than it has ever been and getting only better from here is the kind of genuinely exciting that is only possible when tremendous potential meets contemporary appreciation. Typically the swell of great currents shift and rise outside the hive mind and crash into it to become a zeitgeist. The NBA on the other hand has been steadily building through the sheer power of its steady, dominating excellence.

Only marginally at the expense of a sport that shares many great traits just with less spectacular humans (football, and in the US, soccer).

Mostly at the expense of the brutality vs beauty argument by, ironically, beating the brutality sports to death. At a time when actual brutal sport becoming high art (Anderson Silva begets Conor McGregor and George st pierre begets Jon Jones and Demetrius Jonson) lead to its ascendance. And at a time when the less beautiful sports of brutality suffered by falling from memory like the national byproduct of the concussions they foster on a minute to minute basis.

So here now the moms and dads cant in good conscience recommend the NFL to their kids and America isn’t even entirely into the idea of watching it die gracefully while its talent finds news outlets to express sheer human potential.

I mean basketball, as a long time prime fan, the one who put it above all the others, has always had the appeal of individual excellence couched in an aesthetic framework of a team. A group of hunters that did not have to mute the best talent behind anonymity (masks, muted expression, never rocking the boat in controversy) to function.

This sport is just being played at the level that coaches dreamed were possible only in the realm of fantasy. They literally dreamed this stuff was not possible in reality. And now it can be played at that level in the finals.

And as new fans continue to come in and don’t have to remember the slow steps on the 80s and the brutal pounding steps on he 90s, the overhyped euro steps of the 2000s, they get to see what all that dreaming hyper real forward momentum of players like magic and Jordan birthed out of the chaos of what was possible and through sheer force of will started to terraform into reality, if a kind of unreplicable reality: namely, that this was excellence unsurpassed and unique.

The problem with that mythologizing is that today the game is played at such a level of sophistication that to be exceptional now simply means more. Players are in better shape and are more skilled, and players with less skills, but one great skill, are used more effectively.

And at the elite levels where there are few weaknesses that don’t spell doom, the carnage at the margins of the scoreboard don’t even matter as much as the spectacle of watching the struggle. The cavaliers were interesting even as they lost because the best player ever was having the best 5 game stretch of his career offensively against one of the three best defensive teams ever (the warriors are that good when they want to be; they can put the NBAs best offense on the court at any time, through any number of line ups, and then bring on 5 players that would be the NBAs best defense also).

And lebron went down inevitably and valiantly. And KD rose to the occasion. And Steph Curry is still the greatest NBA alien (he cannot be made into a video game because his actual shooting stats are too good, he is the only player that must be nerfed before he can be digitized). And we get to see excellence unfold in real time. And watch the youth dream and execute and carry the legacy forward.

Kingdoms.

Men care for things deeply - we cannot give birth to life, but we give birth to our ideas, our hobbies, our passions and projects.

It is unnatural to have nothing to care for, or care about. It is unnatural to have nothing to build for, hurt for, sacrifice for; to seek for, yearn for, love for.

It is unnatural to be empty, to be numb, to be constantly despairing.

Men are builders. But too many have put down their tools.

Men are lovers. But too many cannot feel love or feel loved.

We are a lost generation. Seekers, empty and anxious with worry, or hopeless, or angry, or satisfied with the superficial.

When you build your life on your terms you take responsibility for your world. This is a fundamental, strong, powerful thing to do.

Take back power over your domain. Take responsibility for your feelings, for your self, for your beliefs. Find your values and live according to them. Define and enforce your boundaries. Then within your values and in accordance with your boundaries, care for others. Not from neediness; not from fear of losing attachment; but from an expression of the strength of your own feelings. Simply as an expression of self care, we care for others.

We must re-take responsibility for those we love and care for. We must re-take responsibility for ourselves.

It is time to build your life on your terms. The domain of your emotional world, your beliefs, your goals, is yours and yours alone. And that is fitting, because if you do not heed this, even when others are around you will be alone.

Meanwhile, a man with purpose and self love, and who cares for others, is always part of a community, and always taking care of his circle. He is connected to everything he touches and does.

No man is more desirable.

This is me when I knew everything

And me when I only know 5 things

Ram naam karne se sab pura ho jata

Hanuman to hamesha Santa rahe

Sub ishwar hai

Sub ek

Love everything serve everyone always remember god

Ok huge announcement

I sold out the latest round of GFP again. That’s a streak of 4 iterations in a row. But I also realize many many of you want to do this work in smaller increments, or at more affordable rates.

I’m setting up a patreon for like $50 a month where you’ll get zoom access for your questions twice a week; maybe like a $200 that comes with 1 on 1 call also. The $ will be entirely used for others; it lets me me give $ away and invest in coaches like Jaemin Yi and Erica Mulford and fly Martin Mezei lazaros Kalfas to do intense sadhana with me and do things like continue to help my god sister. Basically I’m using the money for the most good.

I’ll also start doing clubhouse chats to answer questions, possibly every day, pick one question each day and speak on it. This is more just about allowing anyone who wants to share in my energy; fuck coffee come feel that good love peace purpose joy devotion surrender; the good stuff.

I’m changing the structure to be accessible to everyone. One call can change someone’s life, I’ve seen it now for 12 months. There is 0 reason to put that behind an 8k paywall for EVERYONE.

A full program is still optimal for many, but I can do the most good this way.

I also feel clear I am going to start a retreat center where anyone can come and spend time with me during different times of the year

Kingdoms (a post from my group Self Love Army)

Men care for things deeply - we cannot give birth to life, but we give birth to our ideas, our hobbies, our passions and projects.

It is unnatural to have nothing to care for, or care about. It is unnatural to have nothing to build for, hurt for, sacrifice for; to seek for, yearn for, love for.

It is unnatural to be empty, to be numb, to be constantly despairing.

Men are builders. But too many have put down their tools.

Men are lovers. But too many cannot feel love or feel loved.

We may be a lost generation. Seekers, empty and anxious with worry, or hopeless, or angry, or satisfied with the superficial. Do not despair.

When you build your life on your terms you take responsibility for your world. This is a fundamental, strong, powerful thing to do.

Take back power over your domain. Take responsibility for your feelings, for your self, for your beliefs. Find your values and live according to them. Define and enforce your boundaries. Then within your values and in accordance with your boundaries, care for others. Not from neediness; not from fear of losing attachment; but from an expression of the strength of your own feelings. Simply as an expression of self care, we care for others.

We must re-take responsibility for those we love and care for. We must re-take responsibility for ourselves.

It is time to build your life on your terms. The domain of your emotional world, your beliefs, your goals, is yours and yours alone. And that is fitting, because if you do not heed this, even when others are around you will be alone.

Meanwhile, a man with purpose and self love, and who cares for others, is always part of a community, and always taking care of his circle. He is connected to everything he touches and does.

No man is more desirable.

Life is loving life. Life is loving. That’s LIVING

I love pain and suffering. Yours mine all of it. To me it’s all grace. I see love and god in everything. Especially your drama and anxiety. Especially mine.

What is karma? It’s consequence. Thoughts feelings have karma, reality is memory. It’s a strange thermodynamic loop, a vacuum of nothingness, gods love, everything...

You ARE love. You don’t feel it. You are it. You must be what you are. Karma yoga, Bhakti, there is a reason people waking up start taking care of everyone.

The work I do is a privilege to me. The people doing the work in this group have “testimonials” unlike any other group I’ve seen. Mfers spazz when they first get here it’s so outside their realm of experience...

But that’s why the group exists. Because the deepest love within should be ALL you experience, all the love, all the time. Even when there is pain, or fear. A deeper peace and love abides.

Don’t listen to coaches who say we all have bad days. I don’t have bad days. I have amazing opportunities to experience grace; suffering or not.

Don’t focus on your damn self so much. Being selfless is a deep teaching in and of itself. Learn to be nothing and everything. Learn to be what you are.

I love you, and your love fucking matters. Being YOUR love, is your life. It’s why you exist, and why you aren’t a damn rock or dust on Mars.

If I can help you suffer less, or serve others, I will

If she is the right woman she will make you a better man. If you are the right man you will make her a better woman. I’m old now (almost 35) so I’ve lived several significant life stages. You’d think the metamorphosis and the big leaps have all been made (especially given my intense amount of life experience to this point). But I actually think relationships, the good ones, keep that same powerful quality. I always say we grow together until we grow apart, until we grow together again (or it ends). What I meant by this is that we can be perfect for one another for a time, a minute a week a year, and in that perfection is more meaning than years of mediocre relationships. My longest relationship was 6 years. Even after I discovered how many partners I could have, I never prioritized this over relationships. In fact I started having accelerated powerful relationships with people very quickly. Like faster than you can imagine now. Because I started seeing them for real, where they were at emotionally. I’ll post more on relationships soon.

Also shout out to Pierre de Sousa, someone I look forward to collaborating with for the next oh 50 years or so.

God Father Program Coaching has been going better than even I expected.

I've got clients coaching their first clients. I've had clients start their own facebook groups. I've had clients become assistant coaches for other world class coaches. People are having breakthroughs on issues they have had their entire lives.

Many of you know Godfather coaching is 39 calls over 3 months. Every person in the program has, at their discretion, the opportunity to have some of those calls with world class coaches like Lazaros Kalfas Rooz Allen Chris Wilde and others, each one coaching their area of greatest expertise and synergy!

There is no self love army or godfather program without them (and without awesome collaborators like Daniel Jacob who show love to the work we do).

GFP was pure Father energy-- incredible expansion. To keep that going, I recruited a life changing coach to mentor everyone in the GFP 2.0. It's like if Yoda was your grandfather and had an accent and loved you. This wonderful mystery man won't stay that way long, he is going to be announcing his coaching vision and mission to you all tonight.

I also was humbled to recruit a woman who is bringing balance to the force and giving that massive Mother energy and blessings to the work we do here. You cannot understand God if you do not understand the heart of the Mother. Some of you know what this means, some of you are working on it, but either way it is going to add tremendous value, grounding, love, and abundance to the work everyone does in the GFP. You'll meet her tomorrow!

I am humbled and honored to give this teaser announcement of the many amazing announcements to come.

Also if you missed my last post, yes, everyone who does GFP 2.0 gets to live with me for a few days as part of it, and yes, there are 2 spots left (there was 1, but I made a special arrangement with Martin Mezei-- check out his group-- and this opened up an additional spot).

Lastly-- GFP 2.0 is the last chance to get 1 on 1 coaching with me through 2020 that is solely with me. I will offer coaching as part of group packages (more on this later) but if you want to get 1 on 1 coaching directly from me, there has never been a better time, or a better offer.

GFP 2.0 officially launches September 1st. Let's get to work.

Someone said what do I do with all these feelings and patterns in me?

Notice then Acknowledge them, allow them without changing anything, feel as much love as you can for anything or anyone while being with the feeling, then give it a hug or dance with it— slowly slowly you heal the vibrations of the mind / emotional body; slowly they become peace and bliss; just waves along the surface of the ocean of being; force isn’t needed, and loathing and shame for a feeling need to be unpacked before the feeling itself; same with anger;

I didn’t heal anxiety until I stopped avoiding things from anxiety, which caused me to have to be with the anxiety in that moment; in other words, no amount of saying my fear wasn’t true would help; the only solution was to go be with the sensation until I internalized “safety” “home” “love” and even, “excitement” that same anxiety became overflowing joy and love

Eventually all feelings became fuel for love and allowed me to stay in a state of “pure being”

Then we got to the attachment system and the nervous system and some old old hidden wounds more pain to love! The journey gets richer and deeper and more intimate, as the heart is stretched open by pain as well as love and by sadness as well as joy

Sexual Energy is sacred: my guru said it is how we create god.

Over a year ago Lesley Tavernier and I did a call that was so raw and potent and honest and dominant and real that women all around the world got excited and, yes, aroused! And men learned how to treat women better and understand what women want. Lesley Tavernier and I have chemistry like you wouldn't believe because we both say how it really is. No bullshit. Just the truth about sexuality, relationships, dating, love, arousal, integrity, and the healthy side of human nature. The taboo that shouldn't be.

Well today we are back again. And this time we are doing 5 Q and A sessions together for Men and Women that will help you find your inner dominant king, your inner submissive slut, and everything in between. And we will do it sharing from our personal experience.

Everyone in this group knows I've become so much more spiritual since that call, but one thing that has never left is the importance of showing up as love for your partner, and learning to be the full expression of WHAT YOU REALLY ARE.

Lesley Tavernier are going to help you find this. We are still discussing how we are going to structure the advanced 1 on 1 calls at the end of the program, but the program itself is already made.

She and I will be announcing it soon. Don't come thinking this is your tame half assed bullshit sexuality talk. This will be raw and real. You're going to be getting turned on while you learn, because you'll have to be to get in fucking touch with what you really are. This is primal healing stuff. She knows it as well as any woman alive. And I'll let her tell you why she thinks I'm qualified to speak on dominance in her own words. But we are going to change the way you see yourselves and sex and spirituality and love and relationships. We are doing this purely because our chemistry is that good. I thought I was over teaching this stuff, but just a few seconds of speaking with her reignited my passion to help men and women really unleash their fullness in all these areas. Lesley Tavernier will be sharing more details soon, but I can't fucking wait.

Do not be at the mercy of your subconscious. Take responsibility for it. Intentionally put powerful ideas and emotions deep within yourself. In this way, when you show vulnerability, you are showing your strength. When even your “weakness”, your vulnerability, is an intentionally cultivated stronghold of powerful loving energy, your vulnerability becomes your greatest strength.

If you want to know how to do this in the most powerful way possible, I will show you.

Every week I hear from people experiencing profound suffering. It could be the cold apathetic suffering of someone numb to themselves and the world, it could be paranoia, panic attacks, depression, feeling unloved and unworthy of love. Men and women who are lonely. Sad. Afraid. Others are in a good place, but wanting to find their excellence— become a hardcore bad ass mother fucker.

I will help you address all this, and more. It is a lot of work. But in time you will find you effortlessly earn the respect of others, the attraction of the opposite sex, and your performance at work is higher than its ever been while feeling less like work and more like your purpose than ever before.

If you are ready to change your life, let’s get to work.

Why is my group flooded with testimonials about how powerful their reality is after working with me? Why do people get exposed to my reality for one hour and it changes their lives so much they want to tell you about it?

I'll tell you, but first I am going to explain what Godfather coaching is and why I offer it to you.

Damn near every post in this group is a glowing testimonial. People are posting how powerful their reality is and then posting again 9 months later because it's gotten even more powerful, simply because they've had 6 more months to use what they learned. That's value.

Godfather Coaching is offering value to your audience in a way they can't emotionally/logically refuse. The offer must be irrestible.

"I will teach you to be so dominant other people are drawn to you simply by being near you," is not Godfather coaching.

The offer sounds good, but what is the substance behind it?

Many coaches teach love, self acceptance, dating, attraction, confidence, peace, purpose etc. Because they are filtered through the experience and perception of that coach, you as the audience is getting a low impact diluted version of these concepts.

Coaches who love to "inform you" are even worse. When a coach endlessly spams explanations, that's a sure sign they have a weak reality. Coaches love to give information, paradigms, justifications, reasons. They love to teach and emphasize knowledge, techniques, procedures. They want to have all the answers. Most coaches can give you 20 solutions to your problems, and that's why they are good right? They can give you information and tools to fix your life...

Fuck no. That's weak bullshit. I see a tons of "understanding" posts from coaches and it's almost all nonesense. They are appealing to the fearful part of you trying to understand everything. They are speaking directly to your weak as fuck reality and, whether the coach realizes it or not, he's feeding into your weakness by coaching you this way. You don't need tons of ideas.

You need a new, powerful, dominant as fuck emotional reality. To get that, you need to hear it, see it, feel it, live it. You need constant exposure to real shit, said powerfully. Luckily, transformative powerful and dominant as fuck reality is all I teach.

My Godfather Coaching offer is simple:

You can live my reality.

I will teach you to be as dominant and emotionally impactful as I am. You will change the life of everyone you care for and anyone you choose to engage with meaningfully. You will see what a dominant, bad ass, loving person looks like, acts like, thinks like. And you will do those things. Every single fucking day.

I will shatter your weak ass reality and together we build you a new one. And once you own your own reality like I own mine, you will be as dominant and strong and emotionally impactful as any person on this planet. You will be unrivaled and nearly peerless.

That's why you see so many incredible testimonials in this group. Men and women get exposed to my reality for an hour or two and it changes their lives.

And now I am making that Godfather offer to you.

I will teach you one on one. Directly, for 60 intense minutes, three times a week.

That's three hours of one on one coaching a week.

Every week.

For 6 months.

Together we construct personally tailored habits that powerfully reinforce what you're learning. These habits work synergistically. They maximize your ability to internalize your new beliefs, implement your new feelings.

I also share a comprehensive supplemental reading list that perfectly illustrates and expands on what you're learning.

But what I am about to share next is actually unprecedented...

...During your transformation you will make friends with several men and women who are also doing this work. You will collaborate with them on group calls, and hold one another accountable for assignments. Every single group call and assignment is 100% free.

Many coaches offer their entire platform as group calls, assignments, and accountability. Not me. Everything they have to sell you, I am giving you for free.

I can do this because I actually love the people I coach and I genuinely want what is best for them. I can do this because the group calls are NOT work for me. I am on this earth to help you change your life. The group calls are how I live my purpose.

So this ludicrous value stacked Godfather offer:

Gives you free group calls and assignments (what other coaches sell as their entire course!)

Gives you three 1 on 1 calls a week (when most coaches offer one call, max)

Internalize my life changing, dominant reality (this is why many of my clients are professional coaches!)

Any offer that insane deserves some scarcity to really convince you it's time to change your life RIGHT NOW.

So here is that scarcity: My rates for your new dominant as fuck reality go up January 2, 2020. If you're ready to permanently change your life forever, I recommend you reach out to me before then.

Why we thinking so much.... don't be thinking so much....

words that many clients have heard me sing to them on our calls...

“What Thomas focuses on isn't ‘self development’, it's self acceptance, and self love. After this call with him, the second conversation we've had, I was able to realize that a lot of the so called fears that I have weren't because I'm not ‘self developed enough’”

The reason he was able to come to this realization was because he understood that loving something and why that love is pure, does NOT mean that you have to understand the love in itself.

(These words were written in this group by a high level communication coach who I’ve been mentoring for an extended period of time…)

If you want to be completely confident in your relationships, decisions, and daily potential, you have to fully realize this idea.

We don’t need understanding to love and accept.

People try to think their way to love. They need to learn to let go of the need for understanding.

You don’t need to understand to love or to accept love.

From that space we can free ourselves from our imprisoned thinking.

Feeling that you need to understand something completely in order to love it is selling yourself so short.

Something that I told that young man is this:

“The world makes you a prison. People build you a prison and tell you to go in it. They tell you to go in it and stay in it. To go in where it’s safe. But we never have to live in that prison.”

Being bound by a “logical” understanding of the love that you have is the same as walking into a prison and closing the door on yourself.

(The work I do on the extended mentorship teaches every single client to unlock the door of this prison)

If you’re in this prison, your relationships will struggle to be healthy, your thoughts will be scattered and unclear, and “what's the point of trying” becomes a way of living.

Outside the cell you have fulfilling meaningful relationships, excitement and clarity about your future, and aggressive pursuit of your true passions and potential.

A year later after our work together, the young man who wrote that message about his experience with me is a few months away from marrying an amazing girl that he’s completely in love with and is growing his personal coaching business with a purpose that he never realized before.

This is the work that really matters.

Stop trying to understand your reasons for loving. Accept love unconditionally without limit.

Then you will evolve.

In a few days I’ll be giving you a very powerful anchoring exercise that will clear up any confusion or resistance to your purpose.

P.S.

The best time to schedule a strategy call with me is now. In the next several weeks I expect to be extremely busy giving time and attention to those who invested in the Mastermind and personal mentorships.

Reach out, let's plan a strategy call, and see what steps you need to take right now to find your purpose in relationships, wealth, and potential.

I have some great news!

We will be doing free weekly group calls again.

I am also going to take this group in a new direction by re-creating its original mission.

When this group started, it was to help men learn to be better in relationship and for the women in their lives. It was about loving yourself and finding purpose.

Eventually, as the group became more about heart awakening and devotional practices, it became open to women also. We did a lot of integrated work together.

And in the last couple years, I’ve gone back to only working with men, and helping them with the drama of their careers, relationships, and spiritual awakening. Essentially helping them find and feel purpose and love.

So I’ll be removing the women from this group and re-creating a space for men to learn and grow by doing this work.

I’ll be doing what I can to create an engaged and excited group for you all.

“The last training has changed the way I see and interact and even experience life”

We have increased the enrollment for the course to 35 because more than 25 people wanted to join. Rather than exclude anyone, I have to enlisted a very skilled assistant to help me with the larger group cohorts.

If you’re willing, please take a moment and read the review for the previous course we did. I’m hoping someone will read this testimonial and be inspired to join us for the next course on masculinity; it will cover dating, purpose, work, strength + power, presence and freedom. It may just change your life and definitely help you on your way.

I was just speaking to an older GFP alumni and I was so happy to tell him about the posts lately, and I realized something:

The quality of the love in the posts in here has skyrocketed lately

When I had this group run by my previous two admins, most of the posts were pretty smarty pants and brainy, and there was barely any non GFP member posts. The admin posts tended to sound beautiful, and hinted at words like surrender and devotion, but never dove into them!

Now I see posts every day with people doing real work on devotion surrender and vulnerability. Sharing a sincere effort to surrender be vulnerable or show devotion.... and best of all they are simple. No big analysis needed. it’s so so remarkable how much the group posts have improved, and it’s all thanks to each of you

All The post have been beautiful to me and I love them all (even and especially the older ones) but I really love and prefer these new simple and perfect posts

Men

If you are looking to uncover legitimate emotional issues (and not merely anxiety masquerading as issues), intentionally seek out adversity.

Many of us come to believe our anxiety explains our emotional issues (I disagree; fear is not reality). Anxiety is a particular subset of delusional thinking brought about by specific neural pathways being activated in a loop (the word loop always reminds me to shout out to Social Prime). It relates to our hippocampus and amygdala. It is a learned, conditioned, maladaptive response based on disorderly thinking. I’ve had and overcome some of the worst anxiety you can imagine (hard to say I was not agoraphobic at one point—almost seized by anxiety just leaving my house).

But again, anxiety is not the all encompassing emotional issue it can appear to be, and neither is depression.

Depression and anxiety are two topics I’ll be touching on a lot in the coming month.

But for now, if you’re looking to identify your major emotional obstacles, encounter adversity and see what you FEEL, not what you think. Many of you will find that avoiding things is causing you anxiety, and not DOING things is causing you to be depressed. There are men here for whom a day of laundry is an absolute achievement. There are men here who can approach a woman with casual ease, but struggle to get over the hump and show her vulnerability.

I’d like everyone here to notice their thoughts. Notice the small voices in the back of your head running in almost constant. Notice that and learn to dispel its ability to dictate your reality. Learn to stop it, turn it off, and instead produce positive self talk.

Face adversity and notice the small but constant voices saying you are not enough. That voice is wrong. It’s fear and shame and bullshit. It’s got origins that can be clearly illuminated and dispelled. For now just learn to turn it off. It isn’t truth, it’s an overactive maladaptive pretense at keeping things ordered and understood. It’s the illusion of control through analysis. Embrace who you are not what you feel you can control.

Barine and I will be starting the class on intimacy, attachment, subtle awareness and the power of energy this month. Before I’ve even posted about it, 66% of the spots are full. I’m really happy to announce it, and I’m considering running a second group alongside the first if demand is high enough. The work will change your relationships for the rest of your life.

You will learn and experience why this beautiful couple is so happy together

Edit: first call on this is tomorrow morning !!! If you’re wanting to attend tag this post. Many of your favorite dating and masculinity coaches have been coached by me on this stuff, come find out why

6 weeks on building profound radical masculine attraction— I’ll be doing group calls on this for the men in the group. We will discuss these ideas/beliefs/actions to make this a reality for you immediately

1) your reality is attractive and what you want is good

2) you know how to be good for a woman, pleasure a woman, and you know what women want

3) you are a man of action adventure and passionate hobbies

4) you are a storyteller who inspires women to open their heart and share their own

5) you have charm, and while you don’t need her to be whole, you want her and know how to enjoy her. You are worthy of her love

6) you know how to amplify your energy, expand your field, and heal your pain and hers

Cameron Anderson just helped me run the 6 person retreat in Red Feather Lakes. He blew everyone away, and his transmission of his energy was incredible.

You really do only need to spend 1 hour speaking to him to permanently create a shift in your life. Guys made comments like “people have told me this for years but hearing you say it is the first time I’m actually going to do it and I feel like listening”

He will be charging $150 an hour for a transformation call, and all you will need is one to get a permanent big shift.

But for the first 4 people to sign up through this post, he will be doing the calls for $50 if you’re willing to write a review of the call at the end!

I just watched him blast people with loving clarity and life changing insight and I’m excited to see who signs up and gets the download!

Special thanks to his guru Yogananda for the blessings

Why do men and women who are professional relationship, dating, and attraction coaches come to me for dating advice?

First, I want to say I'm grateful to everyone who is participating in this deep work we are doing in the group. It keeps me passionate even through this nearly two month long case of corona virus.

Many of you do not know, but I started this group as a dating group to help men and women have the relationships they want. My work on love was a byproduct of helping men have abundance in dating like I did.

Engagement with the group has sky rocketed since I switched to my purpose (helping folks find their purpose), but it's pretty clear my audience here still loves the content that I started this group with, and the posts I do on dating, mindsets, threesomes, dominance and being emotionally impactful get a lot of engagement also.

So, good news for all those who asked me about masculinity, dating, and relationship coaching:

I'm going to do 3 calls with a member of this group over 3 weekends. I'll record those calls. We will cover everything you need to know from the male perspective to be the most attractive and emotionally impactful (dominant) man you can be.

The product will go on sale June 1st.

The mindsets imparted will change your life

The mindsets will change how you see all social interactions

The principles will teach you how to validate yourself, be confident in all situations (including stress and excitement), and be the most dynamic, assertive, emotionally impactful version of yourself.

BONUS:

Self Love Army is launching it's mastermind this Sunday! Everyone in that group will get their questions answered in detail, and there will be weekly videos of my responses to the most important issues. It's a way for former clients to continue the coaching relationship with me.

The mastermind is exclusive, and the only way to get in is to do a coaching program with me.

However, I will give away one spot in the mastermind to someone who comments below. All you have to do is tag a person who made a post in this group that spoke to you and tell that person why you liked their post.

Enlightenment rap (quick freestyle I wrote after a call with a client regarding being emotionally impactful-- crazy exercises on this from rap).

I bleed through the soul of the pen and finish writtens

when I need to withhold what I spend, but never did it

how I even up the odds within the thinnest inches

of the edge of a madness the world wants us to live in

the suffering and sadness, given a thin ration

sustained by a hatred at my placement and my station

the accumulation of the constant dehumanization

is a stagnating pain that's beyond devastating

learned to maintain fury and a cold numb combustion

until deduction found the purpose of love within destruction

subconscious honestly taught me I'm everything and nothing

and so enlightenment within is just more integrated suffering

to see this image, my vision took time to really get it

took me three tours of the world an many detours in pilgrimage

gained betrayals and loss until i almost lost the will to live

but acceptance took the burdens like memories of forgiveness

because from love I've already forgiven before I'm injured

Jordy Domingos Matt Daley

Last post I asked you to put yourself in the shoes of the farmer having a lila with his guru. This post I’m asking you to put yourself in the shoes of the guru.

See the previous post for context.

Say, from the awareness state, that this guru really loves this man. He can feel, from love, how to guide this man. The guru has a kind of knowing. It may not be

explicit, but the guru trusts these feelings, and he trusts what he says and does from them. He never *thinks* about them at all. The information he needs

will arrive for him, and his conduct in these moments is spontaneous and clear, charged entirely by absorption in love and being.

Say that the guru likes to say "When you serve god, god serves you" and that GOD = Pure Awareness = Love. These ways of working with people are the most

profound. These dynamics are never obvious ahead of time. To a being like this guru, the seeds have been planted, and he can feel the way

that causes and conditions have already been met. THe future has not always taken shape yet, but when it has, the guru can often sense it.

Time is not experienced linearly, but rather dramatically. Just like we can have a "bad feeling" about a situation before something happens,

this guru walks around knowing the informational field of all beings, the heart of beings, the conversations of people, the thoughts and feelings

and dramas. He loves everyone but he can only work with people he is meant to, as the time arrives.

Just like we know if a ball is dropped it will fall. He can know what he knows, and yet he chooses to involve himself in these dramas. This is the real

love. The willingness to be part of it all. To put himself into what will be, for the benefit of others. To involve himself.

The lessons here are so plentiful if you go look.

It is in the looking that the hidden can be uncovered, layer by layer. Simply ask, "why was this the most loving thing to do," and see what you can feel.

It is called guru yoga.

Be a Man of Action challenge.

I am going to share one common thread of guys who have made significant emotional progress in the past 6 months. I see them as men who take action. Most of us in this community are intellectual and particularly analytical. A lot of us have a tendency to analyze and worry. But the common thread I’ve seen in guys making the most progress is in the men who are willing to put their thoughts and fears in their place by becoming men of action. Men who meditate and visualize themselves having self love, serenity, self acceptance. Men who join social clubs, do charity work, write and journal their thoughts instead of just thinking them. Men who share. Men who act.

I have been so inspired by guys making significant emotional progress and I just wanted to share how much it has inspired me. Tobias Engström Peter Rosendahl Dam Adlan Gu Pierre Caissial Sergio Cantore Jakobo Jimenez Jonathan Ni Raffi DeMain you guys have made some amazing progress. You have a standing invitation to call me anytime. Also Sebastian Soto I hope to hear from you soon, we have a lot more to catch up on and discuss how to become a man of action with maximal self love.

Waqa Khan let me know if you want to get to work brother.

Tom Fenton in particular has inspired me by constantly being hungry for dates and doing the work required to get leads, then posting his reports in Surgical Pickup. I’m calling him today to discuss it.

I’d like to challenge everyone this week to be a man of action. Join a club. Start 3 new healthy habits. Meditate. Do visualIzations. If you’re willing to discuss it with me, call me and let’s record a call on meditation and visualization and we can post a link to the conversation to this group.

Anyone willing to make significant change, I’ll help you this week. It’s time to take action. Pm me for details.

Carrying on.

Avoid the devoid thematic issues

Entrust the truant

To conform to every waking step he’s making nuisance

Waking fuses

Lit to elicit the tip of spit

That sits on the tip of the tongue depressing sentences

Run,

Through the mind, all the time, a down syndrome

A palindrome wind blown

That his prescriptive lens shown

The cone of where he’d been droned

Alone like that was him grown

Alone and that was it so

He lonely sat and went on

And on but didn’t live on

And on because the fits wrong.

He missed the date to make the date arrive

And didn’t try

To see if he could be on time to make his mind up

Satisfied

He made his mind up.

Had to try. But Yoda said it best

The pot is pissing clock is ticking everything to bed

But he never ever slept

What was dreamt inside the head

Was then realized, personified, and what he did instead

Was the next to be the next, what was lying up ahead

Was a truth he didn’t hide from just to hide himself from stress

I wrote a post describing the natural state in a progression and added explanations (it started with "“How do I reach the highest states of consciousness without psychedelics? Should I meditate? Should I watch non-dual youtubers?” )....

For folks who want the direct transmission, I’ll write out how my guru pointed me to this progression.

Progression:

1) Gently suspend the mind and “enter awareness”

2) Experience yourself as openness

3) Extend the openness to infinity, feeling vastness

4) Feel as much love as you can for one thing, and extend that love out to all things. Relax as this love.

5) Feel as much love as you can for one thing, and extend that to all aspects of yourself, including sensations, emotions, thoughts and past experiences. Relax as love itself while saturated with it.

6) While feeling this inner and outer love, notice the energies in your body. With this feeling central in awareness, sit with what arises (emotions, memories, thoughts). Now, metabolize what is naturally arising in experience, turning it into more energy and presence.

7) Appreciate that what is naturally arising is FOR this metabolization process, and all experience is a fuel source (arising, loved, dissolved into more love, arising, loved, more love etc):

Maharaji:

1) The way my guru taught this is to “see only love”... to gaze from the overflowing emanating love of your own being, dissolving the mind naturally into non-judgmental heart awareness, while seeing everything as the inherent loving actuality of divinity.

2) The way my guru taught this is by saying “God is always at peace”-- directly pointing to the peace beneath shifting circumstances and arising emotions. All emotions are welcome to arise naturally and peace is always present.

3) The way my guru taught this is to realize “It’s all god”-- its all vast beyond words and boundaries.

4) The way my guru taught this is “All water is the sacred water. All trees are the wish fulfilling tree. All land is the divine land. Love everything.”

5) The way my guru taught this is “You cannot understand god without understanding the love of the Mother.” The way an ideal mother might love all of her child without needing a reason.

6) The way my guru taught this was non-verbal. Moment to moment experience would emanate as vast amounts of palpable energy and radiate to others that he focused on, and to those who focused on him with openness.

7) The way my guru taught this was to say “Love everyone. Serve Everyone. Remember God”

“How do I reach the highest states of consciousness without psychedelics? Should I meditate? Should I watch non-dual youtubers?”

The highest states of consciousness happen by themselves automatically. Unconscious intelligence will take over naturally. Meditation and youtubers are not necessary. If you wish to start the process, try this simple progression that can be followed by anyone.

Please try the progression without explanations first. Don’t worry if something doesn’t “make sense”, just try it without expectations. You can trust yourself to do it naturally, the best you can.

After you’ve followed the progression, sit with your experience for a while. Later, if it feels fresh, you can try again after reading the explanations. The “language” of all this, getting it conceptually, all of that isn’t important...just have fun working on it, and let intuition help you out.

Progression:

1) Gently suspend the mind and “enter awareness”

2) Experience yourself as openness

3) Extend the openness to infinity, feeling vastness

4) Feel as much love as you can for one thing, and extend that love out to all things. Relax as this love.

5) Feel as much love as you can for one thing, and extend that to all aspects of yourself, including sensations, emotions, thoughts and past experiences. Relax as love itself while saturated with it.

6) While feeling this inner and outer love, notice the energies in your body. With this feeling central in awareness, sit with what arises (emotions, memories, thoughts). Now, metabolize what is naturally arising in experience, turning it into more energy and presence.

7) Appreciate that what is naturally arising is FOR this metabolization process, and all experience is a fuel source (arising, loved, dissolved into more love, arising, loved, more love etc):

If you want them, below are some explanations and suggestions for how to play around with this progression.

1) Gently suspend the mind and “enter awareness”: the easiest way to suspend the mind is to temporarily accept everything as it is. In acceptance, be aware of your body while opening your focus—you can use the felt sense of your entire body, or a specific location like your heart, belly, or between your eyes. To open your focus, just relax and expand your visual field... notice the corners of the room while still seeing the center, for example. This process is very low effort: accept everything, rest in a feeling of yourself, and expand the visual field a bit. Trust yourself to do a Good job!

2) Experience yourself as openness: Feel yourself open into space. Take up as much room with your energy as you like. Let yourself be porous, rather than dense. You may feel the liquidity of your energy, or a sense of expansiveness. Everything is already inside you, there is no need to defend anything, and you welcome all that is happening as it is. You’re ready for life, the universe, and everything...curiosity, gratitude, joy can all boost this feeling of “being open”. Some like to call it “spiritual surrender”, surrendering resistance, blasting the doors wide open...

3) Extend the openness to infinity, feeling your vastness: a simple way to do this is to feel yourself opening until you are the size of the universe, of reality. You can slowly double over and over. If it ever feels like too much of a stretch, relax for a second, take a breath, and continue. You are vast. Problems that seem like mountains when we are small are grains of sand as we expand into our vastness, eventually fading from view. This perspective shift can be important for healing, which I’ll discuss in another post.

4) Feel as much love as you can for one thing, and extend that love out to all things. Relax as this love: the simple thing to do is picture the thing you love the most and really feel the love. Say you feel the most love towards your mom, or a puppy. Start to see your mom’s heart, or the puppy nature, inside all things. Try on this view for a moment: the core of things, even painful things, is made of that “puppyness”, and so naturally, now, you’re feeling your love go out to it. The whole world is the love of your mom, or a really adorable puppy, just beneath its surface, just like your own love is just beneath your “surface”. Extend this feeling of love out to the entire universe, and all that is, that has been, and will be. To all that is real, and all that isn’t. Relax as your love.

5) Feel as much love as you can for one thing, and extend that to all aspects of yourself, including sensations, emotions, thoughts and past experiences. Relax as love itself while saturated with it: Just like we did to the “outer universe”, we now extend love to our “inner universe”. Feel as much love as you can and extend that feeling to any and all parts of yourself. Send love to all thoughts, feelings, and sensations. Lovingly hold everything within until you feel saturated, lightened, and energized.

6) While feeling this inner and outer love, notice the energies in your body. With this feeling central in awareness, sit with what arises (emotions, memories, thoughts). Now, metabolize what is naturally arising in experience, turning it into more energy and presence: observe what spontaneously pops into your mind. Do you suddenly see the face of someone you’re angry at? Do you remember that you’re stressed about work? That’s great. Let it come up and feel it in your body while you are feeling the love. That will slowly and joyfully digest the experience. Eventually, what has happened and what is happening will become light, expansive, open and energizing etc.

7) Appreciate that what is naturally arising is FOR this metabolization process, and all experience is a fuel source (arising, loved, dissolved into more love, arising, loved, more love etc): you may experience this as one field of energy with lots of layers. Now, what you have digested and converted to pure energy, other people will more easily digest in your presence. Where you are open, others will be more open. What you have deeply experienced, others can “download” from your presence, your words, and your field of being. You’ll go up and down this progression spontaneously as you get comfortable, and you will be able to remember more and more. When you focus on your heart, others will feel their heart more, etc etc etc. From here you can naturally live in service, feeling a profound sense of purpose.

I'll post this same progression with pointers from Maharaji in the next post.

Note: call has frank and candid discussions about sex and sexuality. Part 2 of our call with Alexander Lindberg. We open it up to a very in depth talk between Karthik Srinivas and Alex before a surprise guest (the MYTHIC Divad Tfiws) jumps on the call; pretty soon you're hearing arguably the two best guys on the planet breaking down their mindsets, their approach, and the synergistic effect of their skills together. Then Pierre de Sousa joined us to drop even more knowledge and give some insight into what makes Alex so good and what trait men can develop to really bring their game to another level. The call is all around bonkers. Nerd out with us.

Alex and I had so much fun we decided after this to do a regular call together where we just sit down and break down an issue and brainstorm about it together in real time to let you guys see inside the minds of how top guys conceptualize issues and build insights.

And if all of you ask extra nicely, you may even talk the Leviathan himself Divad Tfiws into doing a one on one call. We will see.

For more Divad Tfiws content check out Playing With Fire at www.Playingfire.com

I want to hear from everyone reading this!

What does your world have to offer?

Men: is your world ready for someone who is a little lonely, sexually unfulfilled, and wants to love and be loved, wants adventure, wants to feel special and cared for, wants to feel small in your arms and big in your heart?

Women: what does your world have to offer to those who get to know you, those who care for you?

Everyone: What do you want from this life? Are you willing to do the work, intelligently and step by step, to get this?

What gives you joy?

What empowers your love?

(For my thoughts see: self care, avoiding self harm, connecting with others + new ideas).

I want to hear from you. Let’s start a dialogue here for those who read this.

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Story time.

What you think makes you weak does.

Trauma is your greatest source of strength.

It is the bridge to love and empathy.

The strong are grateful for their suffering.

Pain is a great teacher. Accept it and move forward.

Trauma + acceptance is a null set: no power over resentments, self beliefs, and love.

How many of you are scared to love? How many of you are afraid of being hurt? How many of you are terrified of yourself and your own potential? How many of you refuse to accept responsibility for yourself? How many of you think life happens to you, not happens for you? Divad Tfiws and

Markus Wolf are top 5 PUA dead or alive, turn everything for their benefit. Magical amused alpha males. Results you never sniff. Coincidence?

When you decide to really work at this you're able to grow. You can spend years doing it, or you can seek out mentors that have done that leg work for you.

Guys that suffered through thousands of hours of experiences. Guys that have what you want. And I don't mean results with women. I mean happiness with themselves. The results with women come from that.

So again: how many of you are happy with yourself? And if you are not: who, and who alone, is responsible for that?

Better start the work now, tomorrow is coming at you fast.

Floyd Mayweather is the greatest boxer of all time and, if you enjoy that sort of thing, for your money’s worth, the best bet in the history of modern sports. 49 men of admittedly diminutive size, though admittedly less diminutive as time wore on, stood in front of him and matched wits and reach and speed against the technique wizardry equivalent of satyagraha (insistence on truth) as employed against British imperialism by Ghandi. His mega fights were intriguing, though admittedly less so as time wore on, in part because the question was begged and unanswered, namely, was there an answer to Floyd. He remains undefeated vs men. Mayweather’s a legend.

Along the way he traded in the gloves and the accolades for several rounds with women. Landed in jail. Got out, fought, won.

To reduce him from boxing caricature to domestic violence caricature is bone headed, narrow minded. But it is fair. And Floyd remains undefeated vs women also. Mayweather’s a man child and a coward.

And through all the female smacking and the male smacking and the winning and bragging his wealth grew and grew. He left the mobs who are impressed by such things gob smacked, admitting to themselves that no one had really done it like he did it. Mayweather promotions.

And yet out of the void of Mayweather came a man who had he not may yet have been invented for us. This white knight of irish madness. This crashing grinding welfare grinder who used his flair and Mayweather’s swag to culturally appropriate the Mayweather “it”. Conor has “it” in spades, and jacks, and clubs. He has it in heart.

He is the warm blood of swag the way Mayweather is the cool villainous airiness. Mayweather is as aloof as his defensive boxing seems. McGregor is the left hand putting wrongs to rights. He is the flair and the power and the recklessness that Mayweathers calculated, defensive brilliance never can be.

9 people have already enrolled in the The Back to Basics program.

This will be a total encapsulation of the path of healing that lead to my spiritual awakening. It will be covering

Loving pain and trauma as LOVE

Healing our past and our narratives

Complete freedom of choice

Radical self acceptance

Helping and servicing others

Surrender Gratifude and Acceptance

What real healing and metabolizing means

Spiritual energy, expanding awareness, and the nature of the Self!

The nothing and the everyhing of reality

I will help you learn to do this yourselves with others so you can justify whatever rates for your help that you need to charge to be in alignment with your values.

in what way is this a new age

we gave up pay within a dead space

like water this is wet page

spilling blood to write a new wave

so yea i'm riding two things

writing from the shoe strings

the sole to make a new race

My soul is in a few places

Because I stole the suitcase

job became monotonous

Encased in the two face mold inside metropolis

a rat race, spinning wheels, kicking up shit

trying pick up to lick up the bitch you with

pretend like the image im convinced i live

until its mask off, then blast off, and then I live

You never questioned why you less than what you wishing for?

Honestly your honesty is just a fucking metaphor you settled for.

the state of the state of the union:

guardians of the galaxy 2: it's pretty. it's got this (suppposed to be ecstatic, but instead feels like make up covering an aging face) gloss and that mind blowing color palate (it isn't trying to be revolutionary but it also isn't really a relevant homage at this point). it's empty, in the way that zoe saldana's acting is; eactly in the way that zoe saldana's acting is to thandie newton's acting.

the NBA draft: every team gets better on draft day. its the kind of everyone gets a trophy everyone wins day where you get to be measured in your appreciation and still weigh out some cool what ifs and opportunity cost analysis. in the end tho, even in a "deep draft" which I hear every year, this could easily be a bust draft. my guess, when the number 1 and 2 picks are point guards, is that this draft has some gems, but no all world talent in the first 4 picks. like this wasn't the year 2010's had a KD or a LeBron. this is my guess, based on odds, not on looking at the class.

as for the teams: the Celtics are getting a pass on this in a way I don't like. last year and this year they drafted poorly in my opinion. it wasn't excusable just because they could use a guy "like" Jalen brown, and now it's worse not taking fultz for this guy who has all the isolation moves of an NBA player at a remarkablyyoung age but may not have the lift and savvy to pull it off. basically, the Celtics just drafted 2017 Adrian dantley and he could be in the hall or he will be worse than igram last year.

John Lewis’ “last words” pure loving wisdom.

Love the world as much as you can, and notice it is loving you back

Give this love a color

Golden love. Red love . Cerulean

Notice as you give the love the entire world is loving you back

Receive the love

In with the breath, breathe in the love

Our first act in life is receiving love

Out breath, giving love

Our final act in this birth is giving the last of our love

In between is the constant dynamic sharing of giving and receiving; symbiosis, intertwined, there is no separation between you and the loving nature of this reality

You are the loving heart beat— the loving in breath— divine breath

You are the sacred loving rhythm

Exhale and sing your song

1500 People! This group has grown a ton this year. Thank you to everyone who has supported the work!

I saw pain and trauma first hand my entire life. My dad got AIDS from a blood transfusion before I was born. Got kicked out of several schools for fighting and being disruptive. Strict step father clashes as a willful wild youth.

Graduated 2 years early rank 1 in my class, then went to college at 16. Dropped out after 1 semester, traveled, hitchiked. Ending up moving damn near every six months for a decade after that. I was dirt poor; I lived with my god mom in the projects for a few months during this time.

Took me 9 years to complete undergrad, and the final year I did 66 credits in 12 months to get my degree and attend law school.

In law school I helped disabled clients, almost entirely abused women, qualify for disability.

Then as an attorney, it was working with broken families, parents of kids who had been abused, abandoned, or neglected. This helps me coach clients with kids, but also those who come from broken homes and abusive backgrounds.

Later I handled divorces. This helps me coach broken hearts and lonely grieving folks who want healthy relationships with high quality partners.

At every level, deep human suffering, and more insight into how to help you with it.

This doesn't even include representing child molesters, which I did my first year as an attorney.

I was also an addict and had bouts with substance abuse.

Most of the women I dated had previously been sexually assaulted.

At every level I encountered a desire in myself to help others heal, to genuinely help them. The law didn't afford me the opportunity to help others like I wanted.

At every level, personally and professionally, I became familiar with pain, suffering, and the struggle-- and what needed to be done about it.

I started noticing I was giving more mindset advice about how to handle a situation than just legal advice-- that I felt happiest when I could help my clients navigate the difficulties of their circumstances by inspiring them.

Eventually I moved on into a lucrative practice of insurance defense, but by this point I was just not happy with the profession.

I needed to change.

I'd been doing a lot of paid coaching for men on dating women and attracting women, and I started pursuing this more seriously.

I realized this was the area I wanted to pursue, but just focusing on sex and sexuality and masculinity wasn't enough.

I wanted to teach people to heal their wounds like I healed my own, to grow like I'd grown, without having to suffer like I'd suffered (their suffering was plenty!).

I started waking up each day filled with joy for the calls I was about to do. It was the happiest, most peaceful, most joyful time of my life.

And I'm only getting started.

Since this disease with Corona kicked my ass I can't do 10-12 calls a day like I was. I miss it. But that was too much. But I still wake up each day grateful as fuck this is my life.

And I want to help you feel the same way.

You want to have the woman or man of your dreams. I'll help you. And put you in contact with clients I've already helped have this ( talk to Madushan Dissanayake and Stacey Rousseau about improving healthy relationships).

You want a raise? I've helped clients get raises (Talk to Laurent Van Eesbeeck about what love told him about getting a raise)

You want to change your career or pursue a new passion at a world class level (Talk to Martin Mezei about what true love and acceptance look like and the energy in the hands and heart)

You want to just be flat out better at the work you're already doing? Ask Lazaros Kalfas and Daniel Jacob and Rooz Allen about how they took their coaching to new levels from working with me.

The point is this: right now you've got some dark painful shit in your life. You also have the solution inside you-- and the answers to your problems.

That's the work I do now: helping people heal from divorce, from fucked up childhood situations, and just being the best they fucking can be.

Sign up for a program, get enrolled in the Mastermind, and let's get to work.

Self Love Army Mission Statement:

2 Million Lives Changed during the next two years.

Lazaros Kalfas

Jordy Domingos

Madushan Dissanayake

Self Love Allies:

Daniel Jacob

Rooz Allen

Chris Alvino

Martin Mezei

Roksana Brzostek (Confidence Coach)

Pierre de Sousa

Stuart Hallam

Billy Mann

Nils Flair

Chris Wilde

Tim Ray

A few photos of my dad. I was four when he “dropped the body”. I was a wild explosive young boy before his death. Afterwards I was totally nuts. It was a source of tremendous pain, followed by periods of adjustment to it and peace with it, followed again after several years by new relationship to it, and again a deeper sense of peace. There were periods of dark humor and dead dad jokes, periods of massive sensitivity, and eventually what I figured was resolution. After the heart awakening this experience was the single largest source of inner strength and gratitude. The pain of this became the single strongest and most reliable source of heart energy that I can share with others. Weakness literally became my greatest strength and source of access to compassion gratitude humility and love. If you want to know how to turn your pain into love, I will help you. Join the next free call or the group chat. If you want to radically change your life, let’s get to work.

Some recent retreat insights.

Retreats are big big big spiritual energy and have a lot emotional downloads. People shift a lot of material and have big openings.

The second thing to know is that it’s very individualized, the experience is personal. So each group teaches me more and helps me grow. I also make everyone who comes on retreat teach something to everyone else for at least 1 hour as part of the retreat.

Everyone is a teacher on these, because the experience is about empowerment and self mastery as well as social dynamics.

Often we start practice at 5:30am and can go until 9pm with a mix of singing, chanting, exercises and talks, with folks staying up hours later filled with the energy talking into the night. Part of the fun is being tired in a good way - it lets the energies move.

The last thing, the thing I’ve been happiest about, is that the retreat focuses on seva, the energy of service. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of each other, helping each other is all vital to the atmosphere and the energy download. The next retreat is already sold out, so when it’s done I’ll post more thoughts!

2019 is going to be a big year. But it's time to recap 2018 for all you guys.

In my Sopot Speech I said, never put another man on a pedestal. In Poland, even as I was teaching a house full of guys how to instantly have orgies with girls that we just met, massaging 3 of them at a time and directing guys on what to do next like a field general, I made it clear I had faced tremendous adversity to reach my level of insight, and I was sharing it so you didn't have to go through everything I did to have the same radical freedom of thought and action.

Self love is radical. Self care is radical. Acting on your actual needs and wants with confidence is radical freedom. These are revolutionary things. They are simple. And clean. And good. But they are revolutionary simply because of their scarcity.

Since I came back from Sopot I had to confront my own hard partying ways. I was working 80 to 100 hour weeks, sleeping with 20+ women a month, coaching on the side, and I was taking shit like Kratom and even started taking Adderrall to keep pace. I'd left my law firm job, thinking that after Sopot I'd give coaching as a career a shot. By the time Sopot ended I was mentally and physically exhausted and my good friends Alex Dickinson, Nael Bkr, Alex Merezas and Gall BJ all told me: look man, you need to be 100% sober. They pointed out the hypocrisy of pushing myself so hard and maintaining with substances while talking about the importance of self care. I was well intentioned but arrogant, which is embarrassing but also is what it is.

Everyone was right.

So I did what I advocate for everyone to do. Handled my shit. I enrolled in an outpatient rehab and started working the steps again. This time with a commitment that was missing before. Found a higher power! Now I have a peace -- crazy.

I say all of this to remind each of you: we all have our journeys in life. But if you are hardcore, if you are willing to meditate, visualize yourself having the feelings and mindsets you want, engage in cognitive behavioral restructuring, if you're willing to exercise, change your diet, and take advice on how to behave around women, if you're willing to take "massive action" as guys say all the time, you're going to be happy and successful.

I'll be posting videos directly addressing everyone in the groups issues as posted in December, as well as a new and improved 30 days to Self Love Challenge (shot in 4k!) and more "Mindsets" series videos. I'll also be starting video interviews with guys again, including Swift and Ciel.

2019 is a year to get stronger, and its a year to learn. It's a year to stop letting your emotional reality dictate your life, and instead dive into the wonderful world of emotional engineering. Intentionally influence your subconscious with suggestions and let go of negative loops that don't serve your identity.

You and you alone are responsible for your beliefs, and if you have a belief that is hurting you, understand that you are responsible for "finding the evidence" that it's true, and are also capable of the "reframe".

Which we will discuss soon.

Hope all of you had a great December and new years.

Also: for those who made it this far: recent development in life: women pay me to tie them up, slap them, spank them and more. I'll be posting my insights into porn, BDSM as a vocation, and more soon. Not many guys in the community exploring this world much that I see. I'll keep everyone up to date.

We are in contact with everything all the time. Everything is touching everything.

To surrender to experience is to be open fully. To open fully is to meet everything at the point of contact with joy, spaciousness, expansiveness.

Feel your connection to your own self. Feel yourself expansively, not as a limited hamster wheel rotating endlessly. Feel your vastness and your subtlety.

Now feel your connection to the one most dear to you. Don't think them. Don't feel their affect. Feel them as their energy, as a being made of energy.

Perceive and let go of the state of their bodies, and their emotional affects, and instead feel their energetic BEINGness.

Feel them as their core; as their essence; as their own expansiveness and vastness. Feel their depths. Find their heart source.

Now feel into yourself and into that being together. Resonate with one another bodily, focusing your bodily and mental/emotional and your energetic

attention on one another. Relax into a layer of non-dual experience as one another, JOINING together. This is an act of aliveness, perfect intimacy.

Meeting one another in subtle space can bring us back to life. It is not a dissociative act. Meeting awareness to awareness is the act of awakening.

Preludes to a heroes journey.

Why it is important to shape and share your hero’s journey...What follows is some basic groundwork before my video on this subject.

Pain and suffering are your friends. They are dear friends. They are fuel.

So is ambition. Passion. So is your expectation of yourself. The best fuel, however, is taking responsibility for your beliefs and for your life.

The full weight of that responsibility is light as a feather; the weight of taking this responsibility is light as air; there is no weight. There is the opposite: liberation. Removal of a great weight of beliefs that do not serve you. There is freedom. Permission.

The importance of sacrifice:

You must sacrifice to grow optimally. You must sacrifice to forge yourself. You must love yourself, and loving yourself includes loving your potential.

Caring for yourself includes caring for those you care about.

You have a vast emotional network. You have a vast responsibility emotionally and physically to your life. This includes those you meet, and especially those who become close to you.

I don’t care if you are strict or relaxed, firm intense calm, whatever. I do care that you learn to be these thing powerfully.

Be a hardcore motherfucking gentleman not a "dancing monkey" try hard:

You aren't trying too hard for her. You're trying too hard because you feel like something is missing inside you.

Let me tell you something.

The woman is lucky to be with you.

She wants good sex. If she shows interest, she has considered you as someone capable of giving her that. She wants it bad. Generally speaking, women are far more sex starved than men because sex for them is typically awful.

But you just know in your heart you don't have much to offer so you overcompensate. You KNOW you are decent, but not always enough. And you really want her to think you're enough.

But here's the deal. You are responsible for your beliefs. Entirely. Only you. Believe in yourself. Believe in your sexual worth. Love yourself. Be patient and calm. Be fun and sexual. Be a masculine man who owns his desires and wants, and unapologetically is himself. Snap the fuck out of the idea that she is even weighing you.

Your worth doesn't depend on the perception of a stranger you're coming to know. It comes from your sense of your ability to impact her emotionally, your sense of your direction, purpose, boundaries, and values.

Want to stop being needy? Have values and boundaries. Have standards. Be compassionate, strong, dominant. Be a hardcore motherfucker and a gentleman. Women will melt.

Be what you can be, and are meant to be.

It’s possible. Neural plasticity, operant conditioning and openness to self suggestion allow you to intentionally influence how you respond to situations.

Everyone has untapped latent potential.

Guides trainers mentors all fill a similar function: allowing you to reach full potential, and often saving years of time. As humans we always have the blind spot of not seeing what we don’t see and not knowing what we don’t know.

A common issue with clients with negative self belief revolves around their inadequacy.

Cognitively, you know to accept yourself. You know to accept your weakness, and your strengths. But what does acceptance look and feel like?

For those who doubt themselves, and doubt their capabilities, just know that I’ve seen men and women make profound changes for the last two years in very little time. If you can’t afford coaching, reach out to members in this group and ask them what they’ve done to level up so fast. The majority of the members in this group want you to be great just as much as I do.

Men need a new normal.

When I’m single and I meet a woman it’s because I’d enjoy the company of someone that day/evening. I like our dynamic or believe I will. Perhaps we will end up back at my place if she’s lucky. She may even come straight over depending on the nature of our interactions.

Is this normal?

This is your new normal. Women enjoy you. You’re a lover of women and women love you. You’re an ally. You’re also fun, safe, trusting, and good for some occasional orgasms for her. Several if you follow my friend Andrew Mioch.

This is your new normal.

We talk to beautiful women, we compliment strangers, we walk around like the world is magical, strangers could be friends and we are always aware of the mischievous secret that the world is full of possibilities no one else really sees. Everything is open and possible.

This is your new normal. Women enjoy you so of course you’re down to have a date sometime, if schedules fit. Of course you notice the effort she took to match, or the way she smiles. I have a buddy that compliments women on their teeth; it’s hilarious and they love it. He means it and genuinely likes it about them is why, is my guess.

So this is now normal. You know what you like about her and what caught your eye and you’re imagining what she’d be like moaning from your touch and so of course you’d say hi and consider her for a moment and smile and ask her out.

If she declines it’s genuinely her loss, if you’re a man of value and good intention. And regardless, the numbers are in your favor. There are always more women to meet: too many. There isn’t enough time to be with all the women who would love to be with you. And that’s normal.

I was laughing with a buddy earlier because he reminded me of a ridiculous story from Law School.

I once invited my law professor on a date and, before the movie, she texted we were just meeting as friends, which for whatever reason I was annoyed by (pricked my ego at the time). So I texted three of the women I was seeing at the time in a group message, asked them to dress as sexy as possible because I wanted to make my law professor jealous, and told them I was taking them all to a movie. These women were younger than the law professor: 18 19 and 21 (I was 28 at the time) and cool as fuck so they obliged. I don't really know which is more ridiculous, the fact that I did this at all, or the look on her face when she saw me walk up with 3 women in skin tight dresses and heels to a showing of Beasts of the Southern Wild.

The movie was fantastic by the way: I actually cried during the movie along with the three girls.

On the one hand, how ridiculous, on the other hand, how fragile was my ego?

Matt Daley

Accept everything as it is to relax the mind.

Mind is open, the body is spacious. If not true, relax while feeling the inner energy of aliveness and slowly expanding awareness of mind/body.

From relaxation, bring the attentional function to inner awareness of the heart.

Feel the resonance of the heart center, the non-judgmental, the vast, the rising and ebbing swell (ocean).

All outer phenomena are the heart center, the ocean of being. This is easy enough to feel from resonance. Oneness.

All inner phenomena are the ocean of being, the swell of the uprising aliveness of love.

This is much more difficult to feel from trauma which, by its nature, feels cut off from the Lord within. From God, or love, within.

You may feel far away and cut off from love or aliveness. Don't go into the trauma before you're immersed in the energy.

Find the energy of aliveness, the pulsation of being.

Slowly, with fullness, encounter the experiences of the moment, the emotions of the past, and love them, which is a dissolving metabolization.

Now the most pain can become the most joy/liberation. What has hurt you can become your strength.

You can experience this transcendentally through a shifting of views and emotions. Feeling more than one feeling about something by finding fluidity. But to really dissolve it, you must feel the love as it, and within it, and for it. It is a total embracing of the experience, and requires aliveness and

energy to do.

Joy, gratitude, devotion, mindfulness, meditation can all help bolster you in this process. But life is about learning to love everything, within and without, from beingfullness.

Virus update:

This virus started like a headache; like allergies.

I noticed it Saturday morning while stocking up on supplies. Made a joke to my mom, she said it’s probably allergies. Made sense there was a lot of pollen.

But in retrospect, dry eyes head ache slightly loopy head space; no fever yet. Something felt “off” though so I quarantined myself in my house. Next day I woke up and felt amazing. I must have been worried about nothing. Drank some coffee. It must have been allergies. No cough no fever. So I did a very intense exercise and ran Sunday. Still felt tired though. Must have been working too much, made a comment about needing to rest. None of these sensations would I describe as “flu” like or “cold like”.

Went to bed.

Monday felt weird, was certain something was wrong so went to room and rested, started getting winded from speaking. I speak for a living so this was disconcerting. Started getting added difficulty breathing; this is what I consider the transition into full illness period:

Characterized by headache; some anxiety; agitation; eventually the breathing issue subsided some.

What I’ve seen since is that as you relax and feel peaceful the virus can be comfortable; it’s there but you are not consumed by it.

Each morning after sleep I feel great; most of the day I rest laying down, can’t do much more. While resting there are occasional waves of mental fog; some agitation; other times clear; not much fever; not much cough; but chills and heat come and go.

Some observations: there has been period of what I can only describe as delirium; some almost religious out of body sensations; I did not feel feverish but in retrospect my thinking was likely fevered, frenzied. It is hard to explain, but I see the same in my housemate. Two sane men of peace and spirituality, but I’ve seen a bit of the fevered thinking. I don’t want to downplay this aspect, but it is not a constant.

On the shortness of breath: so this was the worrying issue, you look it up online it says “severe” cases have this and it’s uncommon... it did improve after rest; and once it improved, I also started getting some mucous in my cough; the shortness came first; after the mucous there really hasn’t been any shortness; it’s not a constant hacking like with some colds; it’s jus there.

Best I can tell I’m in day 4; from what I’ve read it’s an 8-14 day illness for young healthy folks; even those dumb enough to lift weight and run on day two. If it doesn’t progress from here should be good to go in a few days.

Interesting notes: body aches all over, weird spots; definitely feel pain in the kidneys from time to time, they feel kind of heavy; have to Pee more than normal.

Had some really bad heart burn and nausea; the nausea and heartburn was the worst because heartburn made the chest and neck ache; heartburn subsided fairly quickly thankfully; I think this thing just gives the entire body distress; eyes ears nose stomach. Again, staying calm and chill makes it all very bearable. Just wanted to give some perspective.

I’d like to get labs done on kidneys and lungs after this passes.

early adoption of AI and healing

Seeing opportunity and feeling the opportunity unlocks hidden energy within. when you work from the level of purpose it activates the energy of survival without fear, which allows us to work tirelessly with more creativity

humans have always had to change their relationship to technology and what is emerging.

creating and the energy of human creation has never been like this before.

low self esteem lack of self belief and the need for self love tie into our relationship to change and how we utilize technology. inspiration and expansion is available and you have never had a better incentive to shift these inner realities and orient towards success.

the best time to train the body is now, the best time to heal your relationship with yourself is now, the best time to learn is now.

the next six months are going to be vital for early adopters.

This week in Group Calls:

Monday: my call with the group; looks like I'll be discussing frame and my stint with hip hop and rap based on the messages I've got.

We also Julian Chwalewskiewski coming to share his insights on gratitude, love, and freedom, as well as giving a detailed update on the work he does on his Immersion that two members of SLA will be joining, and how guys at home can try and do some of the same work on their own!

WedneChris Alvinolvino joins us. You'll quickly learn why Chris has, in my estimation, the highest "admiration" per comment ratio of anyone in this community (including my own comments).

ThurLazaros Kalfasalfas the Carl Jung of the industry is coming to offer clarity and wisdom. Can't miss this. I expect it to be at 11:30 eastern, around 4:30 to 5:30pm European.

Friday: Sometime after 3:30pm Jimmy DeFalco the motivator himself will be joining us for more value and some frank discussions about motivation and how to slowly build to massive action.

SuAlexander Lindbergdberg the PRODIGY himself joins us. Find out why top guys are saying Alex is getting the best results in the world right now. I believe the call will start at 11:00am my time, which is 5:00pm his time. Will clarify this in the group when certain.

Next Monday: the talented, charismatic author, hypnotist, sexual instructor, and award winning bikini body builder Kali Dubois joins us to give you men a crash course in intercourse and maybe even some insight into the transformative power of hypnosis.

Guests I am still scheduliMarkus Wolf Wolf: between October 28 and November 3rd we will be having the man the myth the legend himself on the call. The only PUA I've put the good word in with a stunner Ex girlfriend of mine. He's just that charming. Plus his mom told him he needs to do more group calAndrew MiochMioch joins us to lend advice on how to become the most effective lover and sexual partner. This is literally cutting edge behavioral advice that you won't normally ever find on this side of a paywaTony FitchFitch one of the smoothest, coolest, most genuine guys you'll ever meet. A traveling DJ with a heart of gold and some of the best skill with ladies you'll ever see. I can't wait to hear some of his stories and for us to break down life, the universe, and what it's really like at the best parties on Earth (and how to create that vibe for yourselDeon RieuxRieux my favorite coaching partner is coming to blast open some limiting beliefs and empower you to take action and think for yourseYenny Castroastro rejoins us next week to discuss more tips and shares more horror stories from the front lines of stunner female dating liChris Alvinolvino will be returning very soon to discuss the launch of his blog, his new e-book, and give practical, immediately implementable secrets on how to be a better lover.

And finalPierre de SousaSousa the Architect himself joins us for an upcoming Q and A based discussion. He's the man whose work ethic I respect the most and, because he secretly has a heart of gold, he's here to give even MORE free value.

I am excited as hell to bring this to you guys. Please like, share, and tell your friends

Every two years I offer a free retreat on an individual basis, and each time it has been better than I expected.

It gives long time attendees a chance to deepen their experiences, and make new friendships, and it gives guys who are new some profound acceleration and clarity.

If you’re interested in future retreats, message me and let’s discuss it.

As for the group course we launched, the most recent group filled up with 5 cohorts (2 in the US, 2 in Europe, 1 in Australia) and Bodi Mack is helping oversee that. It’s also exceeding expectations. I’ve got about 15 messages from people thanking me for it and how profound it is, and that’s after only 1 month.

The next group class will be on thriving in Monogamous Relationships, what we call the Intimacy class, and be taught with my wife. It is probably the most profound work I do, on the most profound subject.

Thanks to everyone who is supporting me and this work. It’s my purpose in life and I get to do that for a living. True Grace.

Well I am pretty damn humbled by this! I hope each and every one of you writes a post on your emotional journey and helps one another by commenting and supporting each other. We keep it positive and keep it moving here, so if you have questions, topics you'd like to see discussed on calls, or content you'd like, let me know!

Let's welcome our new members:

Andrei Stuparu,

Alessandro Agostini,

Farhan Esat,

Drew Baye,

Enrique Perez,

Jeff Powell,

Pabs Nit,

Greg Stanbro,

Jonathan Fisher,

Benjamin Ferreira-Carrasco,

Jorma Stockton,

Michaël Devos,

Xander Reynolds,

Tumelo Love,

Benjamin Wingren,

Erik Hörömpöli,

Curtis Chow,

Sajid Khan,

Jake Berger,

Ricky Royal,

Nick St-Pierre,

Galen Ballentine,

Clark Mansion,

Daniel White,

Bruce Wallas,

Surya Vikas,

Raw Owan Bravo,

Drax Soulo,

David Irimia,

Shivan Yasin,

Federico Farolfi,

Kuno Z'Rotz,

Asri Abd Rahim,

Blair J Burcher,

Ihsan Kamil,

Daniel Michaelsson,

Matt Shaver,

Scott Phelan,

Theo Feldstein,

Joel Shayer,

Alberto Fernández,

Jack Richard H Viri I,

Tomis Podpružnikovas,

Arthur Ki,

Alexander Katholos,

Sachin Devadasan,

Dominic Reichspfarrer,

Monty Banks,

Cameron David,

Yasir Rana,

Ali Karji,

Jonn Swinn,

Andrew Hillesland,

Ibrahim Al-Warthan,

Tobias Müller

A man has fruit he must pick, then ship to and sell in Bombay. He's Indian, also a devotee of a guru in a small Himalayan town.

The guru is a wanderer mostly, but in recent years has spent time at ashrams that have been slowly built around Hanuman murtis he helped consecrate in the Kumoan hills.

The man is staying with this guru at the ashram and wanting to go home. The fruit must be picked, so it can be shipped to Bombay, where prices can be charged that local towns simply cannot afford to pay. The man is good at business and has been successful sending goods to Bombay for many years.

"Maharaji, I must go," he is saying, and repeatedly his guru is telling him "no, stay" and "not tonight".

"You must remain here, remain here," he says softly, lovingly, and yet without room for any wavering.

This guru can be terrifying when roused, can weild his authority in a way that sends a command deep into the bones if he wishes, but in this case he's simply insistent, sometimes sweetly, sometimess dismissively, always waving off the mounting concern or reassuring it.

The devotee squirms, increasingly agitated with the guru, increasingly having thoughts of frustration, helplessness, fear of economic loss, doubt of the wisdom and intelligence and care of the round and nearly toothless old guru. The guru is spending his day asking people "how is work, how is your family,

how is your money," and poking them over other wordly concerns. He is gossiping, joking, laughing, giggling, telling stories and holding court, holding folks in rapt attention, micro-managing the affairs of the ashram and its many attendants. Folks are arriving, bringing gifts, receiving blessings and having the gifts distrubted back to them. Folks are getting special attention, their cares and concerns being given great deference, great weight, being HANDLED. Meanwhile his concern over the fruit is left, if not ignored, then entirely unresolved, as though it couldn't much matter at all.

The days pass and it is finally too late to send the fruit to Bombay. The fruit is overripe. It will not survive the journey and can only be sent to local

markets. The seller will miss out on a very important opportunity. Finally, the guru tells him "ok you can go, jao". He rushes home to see the

state of the fruits. They are as he feared - overripe. He then loads the fruits and prepares to offload them in nearby towns, thinking of the money

he will lose.

There is much emotion about this, for this man, as you can imagine. Put yourself in his shoes. It's easy to believe magic stories of gurus and saints.

But mostly you find foolishness and advantage taking. Would you really, in this moment, have listened? Why? So you could end up with this loss? So you

can tell yourself "well at least I was obedient"?

Would you listen to this guru who has nothing to do with business, an old baba who has his opinions about everything, who tells people this and that,

seemingly contradicting himself from one person to the next sometimes.

If you are like this Indian man, there is so much internal sentiment and drama, and yet it is what it is now. You go to sleep.

Soon you learn of a calamity in the Bombay fruit markets. Associates and other folks are losing money on their goods, not even covering the cost of

shipping them in the first place.

Meanwhile you end up doing better than average in the local markets. You come out way ahead.

Why did the guru not simply TELL YOU this would happen? He must have known...you would have imputed a great deal of knowing to a being who advises

you in this way. He could have won so much authority from you by telling you.

What is happening here?

If the guru had just told the fruit seller, one of two things would happen:

The fruit seller would either listen, and be grateful,

or not listen, and regret it.

But what about all the drama?

Without the drama, where will the chance to learn to trust the love of another come from? What about learning how to make the connection between the heart energy of this guru and the guidance of one's own heart?

Where would he get the insight into his selfish concerns and the emotions that underlie them - without the drama?

Why is the drama so exquisite?

The Back to Basics program covers the entire self love approach that I used to help over 100 people change their lives and find radical freedom.

We are all organized by trauma and emotions. This program will lay out in a step by step way the nature of yourself as love and the radical power of loving and metabolizing trauma (which is not the past, but rather a living present organizing force).

We will cover the visual and psychological progressions I used to coach others.

If you want to work with me, this is an amazing entry point packed with value.

If you want to use it to help others, even better. If you’re a coach, you can basically absorb my entire coaching system over 8 weeks and combine it with your own experience to make your own life changing system.

The program will start September 11 and run weekly over 8 weeks. I cannot stress how valuable this is designed to be. After this is complete you will have the entire structure I used to sell 5 figure coaching packages as well as all the insights that went into them.

On the unconscious:

We have a tendency to create narrative out of our inner worlds. We build the story of reality based on the PINGS of emotional responses or HARD LOGIC abstractions [When women do this (give reasons that they make up based on feelings) men have a tendency to condescend to them. But men do it as well. It's partially how the brain is designed to function.]

How many of us ever deeply examine our underlying assumptions?

At first I wanted to fully KNOW all my inner feelings because I believed they were clues to the deepest parts of my being. But I also learned a very important psychological trick about the human experience: we do not have to identify with any particular feeling. I began to learn how to actually change my mindset so as to obviate emotional barriers. I began to actually grow.

Physically (train the body). Mentally (nourish the mind, enhance your insight). Emotionally (find serenity and self acceptance).

When I say to be strong, I mean this, essentially. I developed a program where guys can literally map out their transformations step by step while refining them over time as their goals change. It's cognitive behavioral, mindful, physical limit testing, and more.

PM me if you want to work on this. It's time consuming. It requires teamwork between us to do properly.

I can only hold so many guys accountable on a deep level with this, so at least initially, I'm reserving it for 5 additional guys that are really dedicated and most interested.

Right now I am offering 6 life changing remote calls as a package deal:

Call 1: Self-Belief - you will come to know the full scope of your potential and the weight of your responsibility.

Call 2: Self Love - you will come to understand how to conceptualize your self love, and how to feel it

Call 3: Patterns of Self Care and Self Harm - you will identify crucial patterns in your behavior and adjust accordingly.

Call 4: exercise, hardcore mentality -- you will come to understand how intensity and discovering true limits will empower you.

Call 5: female psychology and dating - you will come to learn a great deal about attraction, making an emotional impact, and sexual insights.

Call 6: plan for a future and commit to greatness - together we will construct a plan for your future and how to execute it perfectly, including reinforcing proper mindsets for success.

One call will change your life. 6 will change the lives of you and everyone else you meet.

How about you be more hardcore.

How about you push yourself.

What if you never accepted a limit again, until you literally will die from pushing yourself? Not might. Would. Die. Then you rest and see if that was a temporary limit.

Actually risk your life? Nope. But I'd advise you to get close to the point where there is a risk without actually risking it.

Do you have any idea where that line is for you?

Have you ever intentionally sought that out?

How many of us are actually pushing to see what we can be?

How much more can we become? What are any of us waiting for?

Being hardcore is chick crack. It's like an intoxicating cologne.

When you know yourself and what you are capable of you have presence. If being present is the most attractive thing you can be, then being present as a bad ass motherfucker is doubly so.

And the only one stopping you from being bad ass is YOU.

Go check out the 10 Cuck Commandments at

https://www.facebook.com/.../permalink/762824154057172/

For some tips on mindset that inspired this post.

I think income inequality and global warming are the two biggest threats to society.

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Does it really make sense for CEOs to be making hundreds or even thousands of times more than their employees, at a time when millions of American workers are barely getting by?

Forgive this. Don't usually post. But it was thought provoking.

You never change existence by fighting elites

you build a new model until existing models obsolete

black lives are the luminary spotlight of a visionary

but WE ALL descend from immigrants and revolutionaries

Aristotle said povertys the parent of revolution

And we all die, either in silence and confusion

Or so loud on the solution that you make it movement

Even when finding a voice to protest is so scary

cuz societies in decline have no use for visionaries.

The proof is simple asymmetry, there are so very many

Bodies that need to bleed to feed the tree of liberty

Jefferson said the manure is a tyrats blood too

But in truth a tyrant bleeds when you take away his truths

When you take away his slaves, when you end passive consumption

Of a false narrative designed to make you a gumpkin

A bumpkin, a dumb shit on the supple tit of ignorant passtimes

And nonsense platitudes with no logic to find

Freedom from the known is freedom from the mind -soul -thinking

Freedom from drinking from the koolaid of a poisoned kitchen sinking

Not a sink, a sinking place of cooking up propaganda

Weighing you down with lethargy and draining your stamina

Water weight is heavier when you drown without oxygen

And your spirit is malnourished and deprived of opportunity.

And labor isn’t the answer or the symptom or the cause

Or the highest aspiration from on high from marx

He had it wrong, the global social organism suffers

When we cut off others from their genetic potential because

We’re brainwashed

And I love my unconscious sold out

I remember sesame street but not the bargain of faust

They learned to read but not one imparted the essence of thinking

That would allow you to think for yourself, step one towards freedom

It's turned into a weekly list, instead of daily, but here it goes: Gratitude List

Higher Power.

New Friends.

Guys that are helping grow this group.

Everyone who shares advice and encouragement with me.

Coffee.

Lazaros Kalfas

Men that push me to be my best.

Women that love me through the highs and lows.

Food (weird, but I was really struck by how lucky I am to be able to get so many kinds of food so its on the list).

Opportunities.

Doors that closed, so others could open.

All you men who take the time to share your journeys.

The written word and the powerful magic of it.

What comes next and what has been.

This moment.

Christian Strobel talking to this man just makes you want to be a better man! Everyone should add him as a friend and count themselves lucky to know him! What a good dude!

Christian and I have a great talk about continuing to improve, the benefit of boundaries, using our "fucks to give" wisely, and other awesome self improvement.

He also shares some hilarious stories about the FET community in Germany including a notorious guy who slowly jerks off for 6 or 7 hours in the corner while everyone parties around him. Real Life is wild!

Christian Strobel got me to recognize I need more Yoga in my life on this call!