|The hidden role of anger, resentment, and lack of forgiveness in…

|The hidden role of anger, resentment, and lack of forgiveness in shame — what addiction taught me about shame!!!|

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“Thank you for letting shame come up. I can do (access it) on my own, but putting me on the spot has got me to it.” This is a client who was given the tools to heal his own lifelong pattern of self shaming.

“I know that feeling shame never helped me. I can remember times when I felt the shame. I had no reason to feel the shame.”

And how do we love that and heal the wound so that we stop shaming?

Laughter— courage— but most of all, we Accept it. We love the shame and accept the shame that we may have in future. We start the work. End the cycle

He said “shame doesn’t help me, but it is a way to love myself even more. And love other people. Because when you feel shame, we can feel love, and when we feel love, we care.”

Once all our emotions are part of a healthy self actualization, they become healing. “Love tells us what needs to be done.”

We don’t ever “need” the emotion of shame, we can let go of our attachment to it. Shame becomes an opportunity, a message, to love and accept ourselves. Through determination and courage and yes love we can grow more self accepting and stronger.

Criticism becomes healthy fuel, shame becomes the desire for more connection rather than self loathing; when we let go of it, we experience the healthy truth of it.

As always, love will do what shame and fear pretend to.

Once we approach it this way emotionally, we can see the lack of forgiveness and the anger and he resentment, and once we love and forgive, we let go of things that hurt us, and we accent them and love them, thus letting go of the patterns— forgiveness has a huge role in shame. But we must also forgive ourselves— not just those who hurt us.

In the Mastermind, I go into detail about the role of addiction and shame as a fuel-- as a proxy for love. If you like this post, I highly recommend you get one of the two remaining free spots in my mastermind. If you want them, comment below.